Saikat Majumdar - bangalore

Name: Saikat Majumdar
Comments: I am a victim of a pre-planned motive to cheat, and extort money. For no reason, she deserted me after 16days of marriage with no co-habitation attempt from her side. In her CrPC 125 affidavit filed in Mar 2007 @ city of Jabalpur, she accused me of having a incurable skin disease, & that i have threatened her to kill if she pursues her BEd studies. Fortunately, i have a medical cert to prove that i am not suffering from any skin ailments, & i have also been donating blood, which i am using as evidence to prove my innocence.
She was successful in getting a interim maint of 1500, which i am bearing now.
Suddenly, on Jan 2009, they file a DV against me and my father, where she accused us of domestic violence and being thrown out of the house.
I have engaged a lawyer in jabalpur for that, but tell me, why is this happening to me when i had followed the truthful, & right path all my life?
I request you to please help me out of this.

regards,
saikat.

dinesh - delhi

Name: dinesh
Comments: I AM STAYING OUTSIDE INDIA FROM THE PAST 1 YEAR. I WAS INFORMED BY MY WIFE THAT SHE FILED A CASE AGAINST ME. MY BROTHER AND FATHER RECEIVED THE NOTICE. THEY TOLD ME THAT SHE FILED CASE UNDER 498A. SHE CLAIM THAT I DON'T SEND HER MONEY. BUT I SEND HER MONEY BY MY BANK TRANSFER AND I HAVE PROVE FOR THAT. I GET MARRIED IN 96. FROM THAT DAY I WAS FACING THIS PROBLEM. SHE GOT HER MOTHER INFLUCED AND SHE COMPLAIN IN POLICE AND WOMEN CELL PERVOUSLY. BUT THEN SHE STETTLED AND WE ARE LIVING HAPPILY. SUDDNELY LAST MONTH SHE FILED A CASE AND SHE WAS NOT TELLING ME THE REASON. ONLY SHE SAID THAT SHE DON'T WANT TO STAY WITH ME AND SHE WANT DIVORCE. PLEASE HELP.

Dr Sandip Deb - New Delhi

Name: Dr Sandip Deb
Comments: Dear, we had inercommunity love marriage. Immediately after marriage my wife's mentality towards me changed drastically.She started showing extreme volatility of mood and abusing me and my parents verbally and at times physiacally(me only). From the very begining she would blackmail me over sex and would withhold from sex for weeks or months togather over trivial altercation. Al these took a haevy toll on my mental welbeing and I became passive and withdrawn and gradually lost touch with most of my friens and aquintances. Obviously we did not have any issue and in 2004 we adopted a daughter(out of choice).Inspite of the presence of daughter she would not immprove and out of frustration and constant harrassement I went out of my house(solely owned by me)6 moths back. After 2 months of my leaving home she filed a false case against me in police station and within next 10 days filed a suit under domestic violence act, saying amongst other false complaints of physical and mental abuse, that I threatend to sell the house and to prevent me from coming to the house to see my only beloved daughter, that I am life risk for the daughter and herself. It is worth mentioning here that, she neither approached a protection officer or any service provider any filed the application directly to the magistrate.The magistrate passed an interim exparte order restraing me from selling the house(which in any case I was not contemplating). There is no order restraining me from visiting my house or seeing my daughter.But I am scared to go to the house out of fear that she might implicate me in criminal cases or the court may take a adverse view on that. I have in the mean time filed a divorce petition(just filed yesterday) praying for full custody of the child, which I know will be an uphill task if not impossible. At this stage please advice me about how to go about meeting my child (she is 5 years old)as the court proceding is taking a long time (next hearing in the DV case is 2 months from now) and I am afraid if I do not meet my child from time to time , apart from this being a torture for both me and my daughter who dotes on me and vise versa my wife will go all the way in poising her mind against me and the child may give false statement in the court if and when called for the same. Please advice urgently. Warm regards,
A helpless father

Prithvi - Delhi

Name: Prithvi
Comments: The girl is greedy and has parents influence and undue support from them and also had some psychological problem. She has a bad habit of lying everytime. She gave threats of her husband many times that if you don't agree with me then I would ask my relative for your murder. She gave birth to a girl child in Nov.2008 but was expecting a boy. After birth she refused to feed her saying that she is not taking it. When the child was 7 day old her sisters came home, she stole Rs.1 lakh from almirah and gave it to her. When next day we came to know and asked her she said I don't know. When we were searching the alimirah she said don' search "AGAR YAHAN HOGA TO MILEGA NA". We called her father that we have some serious matter so he should come to our home, he said I will come today but he never came. After that on 7th May'09 she left home without telling anyone. Ater two hours we called her parents and they said she is here and we will come to your place in a day or two. She locked the almirah and took keys with her and also locked the clothes of her husband inside.

After 15 days when no one came to our home we wrote a letter to her parents in return they came to our place on 27th May'09 and she said that her husband used to beat her and he forced her to leave the house which is a plain lie. She took her 80% jewellery (including her husbands ring, bracelet and chain which was given from her parents at the time of wedding) from almirah and again locked it and took the keys with her. She said I don't want to live in this house.

She used to scold her baby when she was too small. She said many times don't smile otherwise I would throw you from the balcony of first floor which shows her criminal mind. She doesn't want to share her child with others. This shows her sick mentality.

Now what steps we can take to keep her out from our home. We would like to file this case to appropriate authority. Please guide about child custody because she is so unpredictable for her child also. She used to misbehave with whole family without any reason. She does not know about her date of birth and education.

BHIM SEN - Faridabad, Daman

Name: BHIM SEN
Comments: respected sir/ madam,

I Bhim Sen H/o of Pushp Latha from 29th June 2006, but she stayed in St. Marry Hospital Phoenix Park, Dublin at Ireland for employment purpose as a “Staff Nurses” since from 6th July 2006 to till now. Because she filled one case under Hindu Marriage act U/s 13 (i)and (ia) dated 24sep. 2007 and two more complaint in same police station R.C Puram at Hydrabad U/s 498-a and 3& 4 DP act, dated is 13 oct 2008 an d23 dec. 2008 but under all three case’s her statement are different related to visit’s of Ireland to India. if you want full case history or details please you send me your postal address and email address than able to full history of full family and i want you help me and suggest me according my case.

thanx
bhim sen
09327758597

chandrashekhar - jamshedpur/ jharkhand

Name: chandrashekhar
Comments: without any valid reason my wife is staying at her parental house since 02 years , when I asked to come with me she said no thereafter I started abusing her after consuming liquor but this was due to her prolonged separation as I love her too much but I feel most of the womens are of stupid nature they cant realise how much they are loved by their husband . since 28 april 2008 she has deserted me by saying maintenance toh uska baap bhi dega aur dekhte hain sala doosra shaadi kaise karega, saale ka life barbad nahin kiya toh mera naam nahin . kindly help me I still want to accept her just because of my loved childrens , is there any such group who can help me in tatanagar. I am a defence personnel a sergeant in air force. jai hind

chandrashekhar - jamshedpur/ jharkhand

Name: chandrashekhar
Comments: I already submitted my case .here I want to tell my brothers that she initially registered 498 in my department not yet in court. brothers pls help me out I am a defence personnel working in jodhpur right now I want to get my wife and children back . but after 14 months passed there parents brothers and relatives dont want that I will come and see my wife . even my wife also denies to see me. pls give me the detais of persons at jamshedpur who are victims in this case so that I can seek help from them.
thank you

lovingly
chandrashekhar

sangita - Baroda

Name: sangita
Comments: Just curious!
Looking at the forum, some thoughts come to my mind and I want to ask few questions to all the guys who are objecting against the laws:

1. Why all the wives are not filing cases (498/dowry) against their husbands. I understand no woman wants to live away from her husband without substantial reason, am I wrong. Can you imagine your daughter or sister doing it for money and money only.
2. What if a woman is genuinely harassed and dowry is demanded.
3. How is she going to prove if the dowry was demanded. The husband is not going to demand in writing.
4. How do you avoid men marrying girls for their money. Now there are numerous examples of such incidents. Recently, read a report stating half of such culprit men are NRIs.

Please send me your replies/messages to sangita.mathur@gmail.com

Thanks
Sangita

chandrashekhar - jamshedpur/ jharkhand

Name: chandrashekhar
Comments: my wife never wanted to visit my parental house .on 28th april2008 when I requested her to come with me she said no I will never. thereafter I consumed liquor and started abusing her stating do you have rather any other partner in your life or why you will not come with me . later this issue became a quarrel and my in laws said pls go off from here after 10 days when i again visited to my wifes parental house they said get lost . since that day my wife is not with me no even contact on phone too . however I tried my all efforts but failed to please them . pls suggest me . she resides in jamshedpur kadma rani kudar

sameer - noida

Name: sameer
Comments: hi my wife on her mother's instance left my house on 24/04/09.she went to office and from her she went to her parent's house directly.she called me and told me that now she is at her parents house in the evening that day. After this she contacted me after 3 weeks saying that she would now want to live separately with only me and for that i have to leave my old and sick parents.
she is working and earns a decent salary. her father is well off and well connected,a CA by profession and working as GM in export house,her mother is a housewife.she has a younger brother who is doing his last semester of MBA in Hyderabad.
i am the only son of my parents.
i need advice on how to go ahead with this.if i obey her once then she would make it a routine and whatever she wants me to obey she would start dictating terms.i do not want this at all.
before leaving the house, she left a note saying that she is leaving because she cannot adjust in our family and also threatened me verbally that she would file a court case and demanded Rs 15 lacs.
please help me with this and tell me what would be the best approach for me to follow now.She is now telling me that she would rent an independent accommodation near her office and stay there.

As of now no complaint or case has been filed.

crhisti neeta - Baroda

Name: crhisti neeta
Comments: Complainant is widow.During her pregnancy , she was at her maternal home and in beteween in law parents declared that her husband has made suicide. In law parents and relatives do not allow her to take her stridhan not even are ready to give any reasonable answer as to the death of her husband.She is given a birth to the child who is of 07 months.In law parents are not ready to give any property right even to the newly borne child and are insisting and pressing her to get remarried and give the custody of the child.She has got married at Ahmedabad . she belongs to Baroda.In law parents are situated at Ahmedabad and death has occurred at Ahmedabad. In law parents do not allow her to stay at husbands' place She wants to file her private complaint at Baroda since it is convinient to her and she do not feel safe at Ahmedabad.The question is related as to the jurisdiction of the complaint.wheather she can file her complaint at Baroda Court or not ?

dinesh rohil - delhi

Name: dinesh rohil
Comments: I have been married since 2002. Have one girl-6 yrs and one boy-2 years old. Girl has remained with me all the time. Wife goes to her home very often without even asking me or my parents.she had earlier been at her home for continous 8 months also. she never took the girl with her.I am the only son . my father is retiren air force flying officer. This is my second marriage. I had a divorce on mutual agreement. Wife knew everything before the marriage. she also steals from the house and sends things to her home. now her mother is trying to marry her to some other guy who already has two children and no wife. She had also taken 2 lakh from him for this. now she has registered a false case against me and my parents in the womens cell 3 months back. last week she complained at the police station that I have beaten her. At the time of incident I was not even at home. I had a lot of witnessess for this. But the police never listened. They made me and my old parents(father has trouble in breathing) stay at the police ststion for the whole night. There was no ladies police also at the ststion. The ASI incharge was drunk and he abused my parents verbally in a very shameless way. In the morning, the SHO came and allowed us to go home. Earlier also we had complained about my wife in the police station that she is blackmailing us. But no one took any action. She is asking for Rs 6 lakh and a part in the property. All the property is in my fathers name and is earned by him. There was nothing given from the grandfather. Parents had also disowned me legally last year due to her. I dont even have a job now, as i had to leave my job beacause of this case.She even raised hand on my parents, in front of many people.She goes out for 6-7 house everyday without even telling me. She does not talk with me and also dont make food for me and my daughter. she does not even let me sleep in the same room. She goes out with mens I dont even know.yeaterday also she went with the son and have not returned yet. She locked the room in which I slept and kept my clothes and other things.Now I am out of the house since yesterday with no clothes. what should i do. I dont know where she has gone and when she will come back. neither one of her relatives or mother comes to talk. my father is now very serious. I dont know what I should do. No one listens to me.

kindly helpme. my pnone number is 9211023060

Kiran Panjala - Hyderabad

Name: Kiran Panjala
Comments: My wife who does not want me to stay with my parents is threatening to file a 498a case. There were nothing i ever said to her and infact i take care of her as a price. However, she doesn't care and want to live independently. I'm inclined to stay with my parenst as they both are Cardiac patients. Infact my mother has undergone Valve replacement surgery 40 days back and shee need complete rest for another 2 months. This lady does not want to negotiate and also not listening to her relatives (apart from immediate in-laws and her brother, all other relatives are in my support). She is tottaly mad and trying to spoil our lives including my 10 month old son. She went out of house and making these threatening calls. Please advicse on how should i prepare myself in case she files 498A

lavesh chopra - delhi.

Name: lavesh chopra
Comments: My wife has left from the hospital in delhi on 18th december 2008 where she was undergoing treatment for TB which she received when she was living at her mothers house since October 2008 till the 8th december 2008. I was getting her treated in a private hospital and when she became better she left from hospital to her mothers house with both of my kids(3yrs old son and 11 months old daughter) and now last month only she filed a case of 125 crpc against me....my hearing is on 3rd june 2009 and i am looking for some advise on it........she claimed in the papers that my salary is 35,000/= monthly but it is 21,000/= only. she demanded 21,000/= monthly maintanence from me for herself and two kids.

I house where i m living is my and my brothers and we are repaying loan of 7,000/= monthly so i pay 3,500/= Rs. i have two lic policies of 24,000/= annuall. I have my aged parents dependent on me and i pay for there medication and daily expenses total of 3,500/=. I have a personal loan that i have taken after my marriage and monthly installement of it is 2907/= monthly now in this situation how much court can order for maintanance from my current salary and what all i can do to take my kids back from my wife as she lives in a pathetic place with her mother and she does not let me meet my kids.

As a matter of fact i have not seen my kids for the past 6 months and i m worried if my kids are fine or not. Can i request the judge who is dealing with my 125 crpc case to order my wife to let me meet my kids while i will start paying interim maintanance.

Please advise me what actions can i take in my case.

Thanks in advance.

With regards.
Lavesh Chopra.

mdshafiqahmed - hyderabad

Name: mdshafiqahmed
Comments: i have joint family, she needs separation from my family for that she and her parents played games of my relationship with others not succeeded and then after three months her parents with some other people came to my house in the afternoon when my old parents is there in the home and slapped my parents and pelted stones for that i registered a case in the ps in response to that they with the help of there ps without any FIR taken my mother and two brothers to their Ps 3AM in the morning(Mahboobabad,Warangal district)by two men constables then i sended my advocate to release of them then i came to know that they have not filed FIR and they released my mother and two brothers at 10.30PM in the night after taking 5000/- bribe (SI)as per my advocate statement. I am not in my home since they have taken my mother and brothers to PS and i have given divorce as per muslim personal law they are not taken back there streedhan what to do.

Atul Kaushal - Gurgaom

Name: Atul Kaushal
Comments: We did not take any dowry. Even middle men or marriage and all people who attended are ready to say that. We had the only demand that we will marry our boy widout dowry.
The girl we married belongs to lower middle class. But we are victims of ignorance, the girl we married was already married to someone, and she was not legally divorced. We came to know about it after marriage. We have sound proofs of that. And when we talked to her parents they threatened to file a dowry case. Then due to some problems with her health(she is mentally weak), she asked to go parents home. We filed this case of bluff in court that they didnt tell us about 1st marriage of girl.
To response to our case , they have filed 2 cases
1. They want 30k money to fight against our case and monthly compensation of 20k.

2. Dowry Case of spending 4 lacs on dowry and marriage.

We were total of 20 people including Boy who went in marriage party(Barat).
They dont have such financial condition of spending this much amount. They will not be able to prove that anyway.

But for the time being they are torturing us and threatening us.

shreemali - ludhiana

Name: shreemali
Comments: can she file 498 after a long time she is not with me

R Kumar - Guwahati

Name: R Kumar
Comments: Dear Sir,
I got arrange marriage in June, 2003. My wife is not adjusted in my family from beginning cause of her loudly swore; misbehave with family members and shirker habit. But as per my personal good relation and a gentle family totally family member have been supporting her for her adjustment in our family and no anybody pressurized or forced for any daily house work, but she always badly treated to all family members on regular basis without any reason.
After 2-3 month of marriage she has started to threats us for suicide and Dowry Case and also given us so many demands of money and gift for helping her parents time to time. I also fulfilled her demand time to time for safety of myself and saving my joint family. But her demand had been increased day by day out of my capacity. As per my economical difficulties I avoided such a thing, accordingly she increased her blackmailing by hearting herself as make hungry herself, avoiding of daily house work, bad treatment with family members, bad & lie thing discussion with native and villagers & hearting her head and hands after throw it in wall etc. There after she finally asked me for separate living life from my family and fully stopping my contribution to my family.
In the between her brother who is also an wanted criminal and his father time to time visited my home and stung my wife for family separation and suicide attempt and threat us for dowry case if our family not accepting their terms. Also her brother in law always pressured me for family separation so many times. In this period of 2003 to 2008 my wife has misused my cash and her golden jewelries [which is gifted by my parents and my relatives at the marriage time] after cash for solving the criminal cases and bail of her brother and also helps her parents economically.
At last for saving my joint family I shifted my wife along with my mother at my work place after taking the rented room. But here also no any changes came in her behavior and she tried almost three times for hearting herself and tried to show suicide attempt and swore loudly to me and my mother. When I asked her for her such a behavior at the normal time then she told, she has headache and mental problem which treatment is continued from her childhood and she do like that after attacks of headache. Then after advice of my friends and native I have gone to psychiatry with my wife and after long discussion and advice of 2nd meeting, Dr. has given some medicine for a month to her. I also shifted my mother to my older brother quarter for avoiding from any family friction as per advice of Dr. After 2-3 days using of medicine she has throw out totally medicine in dustbin and as per her old habit and also no any changes came in her daily life.
Due to daily mental tension cause of regular created problem from my wife, my absence in duty has increased and accordingly my job efficiency has affected. My bosses also warn me for same so many times and advice me for avoiding my personal problems and doing my daily job well and accordingly fear of Job loss and March Ending, I have decided to leave my wife to her parents for changes of environment for a time. Accordingly I leave her to her parent’s home by train and I came back and joined my job.
Suddenly my wife, her brother & his wife has come at my work palace and given a complaint [GD] to local P. S. against my older brother as a dowry culprit who stung me for misbehave with her. As per emotional pressure and ladies case local Police arrested my brother at night by around and kept him in their custody above 15 hrs. After my discussion with Officer In-charge and knowing the fact He has interfered in to the case and after solving it, released to my older brother. Accordingly her brother has taken back their wrong complaint and with commitment of better life in future I taken backs my wife to my rented room on.
At the present she has again started hearting herself by avoiding the food and medicine on the time and keeping up violence on daily basis and also warning for again giving the dowry complaint and suicide attempt etc, where we are living lonely without any our family interferes.
In present I am totally upset and facing daily a new drama of my wife and not doing my well, so ultimately my management is giving me negative remarks and there is chance for loss of my job in future.
Now she is also planned to go her parent’s home. But I have a suspect for again any legally terrorism from her as DV, 498 or 498A. In this situation I am also not able to cancel her plan. But I want to save myself and family from any legally-terrorism. So pl suggest me what I have to do?

Deepak Kumar goyal - Delhi

Name: Deepak Kumar goyal
Comments: We were living in Delhi since March - May 2008 with her brother. At May 23, 2008 she went home (Kanpur) and in Aug. 2008 she filed case in same place. I also went to Kanpur towice to bring her but her father demand Security money Rs. 100000.00 but I was not able to do the same.

sreemali - delhi

Name: sreemali
Comments: can she file 498 (a) when the case is already in the court.

Konthai - Mumbai

Name: Konthai
Comments: Wife unfaithful. Maintained contact with boyfriend even after marriage with me. Presumably marriage solemnised against her wish by orthodox parents. In laws financially, socially and politically powerful. Intimidating me and parents in one way or other. Wife presently staying at her house. I am staying with parents in a rented accommodation. Not financially strong enough to start legal proceedings head on. Thinking what to do

These are causing tremendous mental tension. Your advice pl.

ANIL - kalyan

Name: ANIL
Comments: after my marriage we will leave with jointfamily she dont want to leave with my mother father and sister her mother not allowed to leave with me she at her mother house from last 6month it happen 2times her mothe and she not listen from any one her father told me thatthey not listen him also her mother always told to me and my realities that she can file 498a aginst me and my family. how i can save my family and me. her mother told all people something wrong about me only.

rahul goel - delhi

Name: rahul goel
Comments: Girl came to mother for advise/counselling for mental and physical problems. Psychological problems because of incestuous relationship between her brother and her younger sister and general attitude of indifference/callousness on part of little-educated but wealthy parents. Physical included stomach aches and leucoderma.
My mother helped her cope with emotional distress and even took her to doctors for stomach ache.
She started coming home everyday and got intimate with me. Became keen for marriage, but told it was not possible since her parents didn't approve of my first divorce.
Eventually, after 2 years of courtship, she ran away from home and we got married in an Arya Samaj mandir.
Then she ran away from my home even before we were married for 2 years, than filed a complaint in CAW cell Nanakpura, followed by DV Act case in Karkardooma court.
I do not want a divorce, which is what she wants.

BEGAD - Meerut

Name: BEGAD
Comments: I'M A VICTUM OF 498A, DV, ETC. I HAD COMPLTED 15 MONTHS OF MY MARRIGE. NOW I HAD FILED DIVORCE IN DEC 2009. SHE WANTS TO COME BACK BUT I'M NOT INTRESTING AT ALL &FILED ADIVORCE CASE IN DEC 2009. NOW SHE WANTS MAINTINANCE (SHE IS A POST-GRADUATE. NOW ADVICE ME WHAT TO DO NEXT?????

prashant chawla - gorakhpur

Name: prashant chawla
Comments: my marriege was held on 24 nov 2007 , my wife"s brother and mother were alwayas inter fere in my familylife .at this time she is in her mother home and aprox 12 months and after 10 months of going my home she F.I.R on me and my mother and my younger brother. we r now in high court meditation center lucknow , my wife"s brother is very greedy, and he wants my mother"s property,she marry me with planing for my mothers proprerty. we have a small family my younger brother and my mother are only in my family and we r to much mentaly torched by my wife and her brother. they think money is more than every relation.she goes her mother home on 20 may 2008 with pre planing.

Kumar - Andhra Pradesh

Name: Kumar
Comments: She is misuse the dowry harrasement case 498A and also applied stridhan.She isn't given the dowry but indicate in FIR 3.5 Lachs, 20 Soverigns Gold and 1 Acre Agriculture Land.She is qualified M.Tech.Her parents are very poor.My father is no more and Mother is Psychaitrist Patient.Please give the good suggestion.

Keshava Murthy J - Bangalore/Karnataka

Name: Keshava Murthy J
Comments: Adultrous Wife who filed Dowry hasassment and 3&4 DP act on me!

I am married since 24th Nov 2004 and it was a arranged marriage, I had not received any dowry at the time of marriage excepts gifts given during reception and muhurat by my in-laws (this was done on their own wish), my wife works for a reputed MNC as a software engineer. Myself working as a manager in a reputed MNC.
However, this marriage was against her wishes and I got to learn about it only after I got married! but we had a talk and decided that we will make it work and not stir the past and we both started building our personal and profession lives together. After about 3 years, we had built our own house (the plot is in her name, registered some 6 years before her marriage by her parents) for this house her dad had contributed some amount of money which we had agreed to pay on a monthly installment basis, rest of the amount was managed from our savings. In the meantime, we had also invested in another house by taking housing loan, the emi is being paid by me from the time of registration and this house is in my name.

Financially we both are earning well and hence did not have any issues at all for the entire 4 years of marriage.

I got a doubt that she is having affair with her office colleague when I was away on a project trip to South Africa, on my return, her behaviour was different towards me and she did not show any love towards me and used to constantly abuse me and my mother. She also got pregnant in Jan'08 even though I had not had any physical relationship in that month!

When I confronted her, she made all promises that it is my child only but I was still not convinced. This argument never stopped, month on month since both of us were headed in different directions.

Finally I pressed for a DNA test in the 7th month of pregnancy using the latest completely safe method availabe in the US (www.DNAPLUS.com) which gives the DNA match of the fetus with only 5 ml blood sample of the mother and cheek swabs of the alleged father (in this case me!). I got my results in the 9th month (just one month before the child was to be born) and it turned out that I am not the biological father of the child. On consultation with my Lawyer, I was advised to wait till the child is born and then discuss with her parents. By this time, she was already sent to her parents house for delivery (we had even conducted a function to send her to her parents house, since at that time I had still not received my DNA report and hence gave the benefit of doubt to her)

After 2 weeks of the child being born (Male child born on 19-Oct-2008) I discussed the report with her parents and my close relatives (my aunt, my cousin, my mother) being present. They did not agree to my report to which I requested them to conduct independent tests and verify my report and then we could discuss the matter based on further confirmatory tests! They did not agree to that also, I was all this while not staying in my matrimonial house because I feared threat to my life, hence after waiting for 2 months without any response from my in-laws, I vacated my matrimonial house after informing them and moved closer to my office.

They immediately gave a miscellaneous complaint on 11th Dec08 in their area police station stating that I have been absconding for the past 3 months and that I have vacated the house without informing them. I further visited the police station and clarified to the station Inspector and also gave a copy of my DNA report.

I now feared more for my life and also to the fact that they started threatening me with dowry harassment against me. I filed a written complaint to the Commissioner of Police and State Human Rights Commission on the threats and also stated that I need protection while I proceed on a divorce case against my wife.

They have given statements for both the complaints, this time they included some amount as dowry which they have apparently not given to me.

Then the process of negotiation started by involving the elders from my family and her family to take her back and that they would adopt the child and she will from now on behave herself and that I should give her a second chance!!

I have undergone emotional torture by my wife and hence in no mood to live with her again. After their attempts failed to convince me to take her back, they now started pursuing the dowry harassment route in a big manner, I was called for talks in the area police station and they then gave a complaint to the Police Inspector, since the Inspector knew the entire episode he did not entertain the complaints initially and called for a mutual discussion to resolve the matter.

Now in the complaint they have stated to have given approx. 14 lakhs in dowry to me in the entire period of 4 years and that I am harassing them for more and hence not living with my wife and child!

After all attempts to negotiate failed, they moved the court and filed an FIR on Dowry Harassment and 3&4 DP act on 29th April 2009.

I was not prepared for it since it was still in the discussion stage and hence got picked up by the Police the very same day from my house and produced in court, I was remanded to Judicial custody on 30th April09 till I got my bail. I finally got my bail on 4th May09 and was released from Judicial custody.

The complaint has been given against my mom also, since she was not in town, she had not been arrested and hence I was able to move the court for a Anticipatory bail.

I have to fight this case to closure - Case 1

I also have to file for a divorce on grounds of adultery in the family court - case 2

Note: The above description is very brief and to the point, there are lots of detailed points in the entire 4 years of marriage which I will be drafting with the help of my lawyer.

Please do advice on what you feel about my situation and what I am supposed to be doing.

I have already helped around 4 people who had been in judicial custody along with me on the same 498a about this website and articles, and really feel that men are being targetted and this creates so much of mental agony and tensions and all this with the fact that we still need to perform and deliver in our respective roles in a very challenging workfront.

Thanks in advance for all your help.

Keshava Murthy J
+91-9886750218

Prashant - Allahabad

Name: Prashant
Comments: Hi,
I have been threatened of my parents and family of being put behind bars.
Being called names and dirty languages is the order of the day for us .
Wife is being supported by her sister and and other relations .
I have filed for a section 9

Arghya - Delhi

Name: Arghya
Comments: Hi,

I got married in this Jan and now i need help and want to know what if my wife go for a False Dowry case against me? Please suggest me. I am asking this as she had threated me that she will spoil my life and will ruin me and my family. I have only my mother with me and do not want anything to happen to her.

Thanks,

prakash - maharashtra

Name: prakash
Comments: CHARGED ME OF HAVING PHYSICAL RELATIONSHIP WITH MY SISTER & NIECE,WHICH IS BIGGEST SHOCK OF MY LIFE

Anand - Pune

Name: Anand
Comments: Now in May 2009 our marriage is 28 months old. She stayed with us only for ten months. Then she got pregnant, she was carrying twins, hence Doctor asked her to take complete rest. So she went to her mother’s place with our permission and her parents consent. She delivered twins a boy & a girl and now kids are of 10 months old.

We are calling her back since November 2008 but every time she gives some reasons and avoid to come. She and her parents forced me to sell my flat which was close to my parents home. And just to keep my wife & her parents happy I had to purchase a flat close to my in laws home. She promised me that once I get the possession of the new flat she will come back. But when I got possession she started saying that she doesn’t want my parents & sister to come there. That was first shock for which I was not prepared.
When I denied to leave my parents she changed completely, her parents & she started making many allegations against me & my family. They are putting my family under pressure. My parents are ready to accept all the conditions, they are fine for me to stay separate but now I have completely lost faith in her. And the allegations they are making are terrifying. They have said that “they will not let me die and living will be a punishment for me” I am shocked with their cruel behavior, we are not allowed to take our children. They are black mailing us and playing our emotions as they know we don’t want to loose kids.
Now I am looking for advice as they are making many false allegations.

abid saquib - bahrain

Name: abid saquib
Comments: hi
2yrs back she filled maintence n i did not appear the court,order was ex party.by the court order i m paying 2000 rs every month.last year she filled petetion to increase maintence 20000 rs.cuz i m civil engineer working in abroad.she can not produce my slary even my company name,now in the court she is telling verbally my salary is 80000 rs.just i want to know two things.no 1 without anyevedence court can increase maintence.second i dont ve any thing in india,even i dont ve bank account also.so u can say nothing.if i will stop giving maintence what will be punishment for me.i want to stop giving maintence.which bases court is fixing maintence.according the income.what will be percentage of income will be consider for maintence.pls reply as early as possiable

Kapil More - Mumbai

Name: Kapil More
Comments: False allgeation of Dowry Case(498A) Domestic violence Act.
Wife is working earning 12,000 per Month still she demands 20 lac for house and 10,000 per month life time maintaince.
My 3rd hearing would be on 22 Jun, Bandra Family Court

R.Murugesan - Chennai

Name: R.Murugesan
Comments: Maintenance Case u/s 125 CrPC:

I am the respondent ( husband ) . She deserted me intentionally for money. Now , I am contesting the case.

Please let me know the " recent Rulings / case law " of Supreme court which dismissed the maintenance case filed by wife who deserted her husband.

If you tell me website address , please let me know.

As your service is free , I am sending this request.
Please help me.

Raj Kumar Upadhayay - maharashtra

Name: Raj Kumar Upadhayay
Comments: Name: Raj kumar Upadhayay
Comments:
Sir,
I, Raj kumar, an HP Employee (contract basis) working in Andheri and residing at Nerul would like to bring to your kind information for my life safety, I have written here the brief details for your kind reference.
Basically I am from Uttar Pradesh and got the Job in Mumbai thirty months back. I come from north Indian Brahmin family and my family members were looking for an alliance for my marriage.
We got an alliance trough Neighbour who has mentioned that she is from middle class family and . . As I was looking for a simple girl and my family so to have a give good life for to this girl Named Gyani Upadhayay D/o Mr.Surendra Upadhayay .Who was earlier working for Hindustan Motors & Mrs. Madhuri â€" who is her Mother staying at Home belongs from north Indian Brahmin caste and , also their daughter and residing at Kolkatta
I have one younger brother who is not working. Also I am having one younger sister who is also staying with us. My father is a Driver and we all stay together residing at Nerul Navi, Mumbai We were living in a Joined Family before my marriage. My mother who is expired last year on 19th august 2008
. The above mentioned details are my family details which is no way to disturb anybody.
As per we are also from middle class so we were not having money for marriage somehow we have borrowed and adjusted for doing marriage We were not Aware of that the girl she is mentally ill .Her Family had spoken with us on month of feb 2008 and tried convince for marriage by April 2008 as per we were in a bad condition so we neglect to do it by july .so her family only match our kundli & fixed the date .We not even went to see the girl .Everything was Being arranged From their side They also convince to do marriage at kolkata we agree for that also .As per my marriage was done in hurry so I was not aware of the girl illness .Due to this first we have being forced to do court marriage after visiting at their place on 7july 2008 and after that Arrange Marriage happened on 9th july 2008 .We went there with 12 members from my side including my Father,brother,sister .The one side Train Fare of coming from kolkatta to Mumbai was Provided by them and other side from Mumbai to Kolkatta was being Provided from my side After my marriage immediately my in-laws and my wife forced me to live in separate family which has been agreed by my family members also.and also They have a many cases regitered with there neighbors
Instead of leading a good mutual understanding life, my in-laws interference in my life is too much and my wife will not accept any simple work at my home without considering her father & mother which is not at all acceptable by me.
Whatever they brought for their daughter i.e., - gold near about 2 grms earings and silver items (few) are kept with them, and .My wife want my salary to be deposited to her w. .
I do take care of my family expenses for the past 7 years.
Gyani has many health problems too for which my sister want her to take immediate treatment, but she is not going with her to doctor consultation due to I am a field engg so I was not a having a perfect time to go home she use to say I will manage by myself .As per after my marriage within 20 days my younger brother had face to an accident with 21 stitches above his eyebrows as soon his stitches was to be removed on 18aug 2008 .We face another Accident of mother who has being expired on august 2008 .As per All the expenditure I have to suffer and already I am having a loan of 1.5 lacs from bank .so we were in a tense so due to no one was happy in my family she also started blaming my mother for expired
1. As per my life was going good .After my mother death She tried divide me from my Family .she use to do nothing at home . one night she also told if u not do so I will do suicide at your home .which next day I have informed to her Mother also .her mother called her up ask .that day evening only she fought with me Because I have told to her Mother .at the time of 13th day of my mother expired her father had also came I informed him also about her behavior we had a conversation also she apologies in front of her Father .after that also she doesn’t have a change in her behaviour .
2. She had also informed to her house if the we phone to her home then no one should pickup we tried to call 2 to3 times to inform about her behaviour but no one was picking up The same way neither they bother about her problem.
3 She also use to say that ican see future in kolkatta .Also see use to say that she had played with 10 to 12 cutted heads .she also use to say that above her stomach a big loaded truck has gone but nothing has happened to her .due to which everyone was feared in my home
4 Every night when I go to sleep to her she use to say about all the horrible stories of ghost which has being faced by her .Apart from these she had also informed me About her boy friend whose name is gautam who stay in kolkatta near by his house only and use to come to meet her in her house only
Apart from this after 2 mnths her father had called one day and forced my father saying to send her to one of his relatives who stays at ghatkoper in mumbai, we had agree for that also .after 3 weeks she came to my house just before one day left for diwali .she had brought tantra-mantra returned by her relatives .one night when I was at sleep she cutted my few hair and she was doing her work by that time she had caughted redhanded by one of my family member .when we ask her why she had had she said to control me and she was asking for forgiveness .after I left sleeping beside her .then started blaming to me also .that u are coward which she had inform to her family and relatives also
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5 about my account and expenses. Where I stand here to answer her, I do not understand their rights to interfere in my Personal -life.
6. Mother -in-law every other day use to call our home and indirectly saying that I can do anything and I should be adhering for his dauther’s tantrum activities.
7 we were all depend to my sister for cooking and other house-hold works as gyani cannot do anything independently. I do take care of her but am not getting proper response neither from her nor from her parents.
8 Now am tired for arguing and make her understand about the happy family.
9 My in-laws and wife always make threats by saying that I can make complaint against you and your family members and you will be in jail, though we are not having a single jewellery and things are with us and put the case against in dowry problem. They can go up to any level to make my life ruined and my brother’s family & Father & sister.
8. I do not understand why they expect me as puppet which a normal man cannot act in his real life.
Besides the above note I never asked for Gyani and her family single penny I got from her after my marriage and I bear all expenses of my family and other expenses of gyani. Their parents do not like that she should take part of my family expenses nor they given authority to me to take care of her I least bothered. In which way is this right to behave they were also having one relatives in borivili who also harrased me and said that I will show u and family who we are .after all this my mother in laws she said to send her daughter with all her clothes and item which she had will do our daughter second marriage and we don’t want to keep any relationship with you and your family .so after all this we had tried to arrange her to send her with her relatives in ghatkhopar they came and took her away from their relatives her brother came take him away before going her brother called on my brother cell no and told that we will show u all
After fiffteen days her brother called me on my cell and we had fought on phone he also said I wil kill u and started saying bad words about my out my sister and we had a conversation upto 15min .after 1 mnths Gyani had called me said that to provide her some money for staying on her parents home I ignore for paying .she said that I will take up to court now almost every 15 to 20 days her mother keeps on calling.They are also Trying to blame my dad that he is keeping bad eyes on her
I have also inform to my family members not to talk to anyone
Sir, I humbly request you to help in this case and would like to make a file my case and not to action right now as they are only threatened me.
My father and family members are worrying about my safe life as they can do anything in their worst level.
With the great hope of getting help from your end am submitting this letter to your department as the prior information in details in case of any problem in my forecast life.
Thank you,
With kind regards RAJ KUMAR UAPDHAYAY

md. shaker - kolkata

Name: md. shaker
Comments: currently they filed ipc 125

Venkat - chennai

Name: Venkat
Comments: She was having relationship with somebody and complained on me in women police stn. As we wewre separated by police for more than an year, On the grounds of cruelty I filed divorce. She is asking for lakhs of money to give diviorce. She is arrogant, and bitten her father, me. She is not allowing the child to see me .

Dr.sarvesh shukla - lucknow/U.P

Name: Dr.sarvesh shukla
Comments: date of fir-23/11/07
it was written in fir that my father-in-law spent rs 42 lacs on her daughters marriage as dowry and inspite of all these we tried to kill her daughetr by strangulating her with a duppata for 20 lacs more for opening my clinic she some how managed to save her life and went to her parents place jabki the fact is that she was not staying wit us(ive got audio n vedio evidences) from last 1 year or more from the date of fir and i m running my clinic from last4 1/2 yrs(ive got proofs for this) or more the medical reprt(done after 10 days from d date of fir)says that the pt complains of pain in neck region but no external or internal injuries seen.and inspite of this report sec 307 ipc was added in the fir (due to pressue of ADG BRIJLAL)

Kaiser - Chapra/Bihar

Name: Kaiser
Comments: I am Muslim & married second time while first wife along with kids is with me. Second wife I divorced as per Muslim Shariah practice and informed her but after 55 days she filed false cases against me, my parent, one my sister and my first wife out of jealous. I am working in Saudi Arabia. Other four accused are in India and all are innocent. Second wife was never with my relatives. She came to Saudia for two months & returned back and within 10 days of her return I divorced her from India then returned back to job in Saudia.
Police inquiry has not yet been submitted to court. Please advice what I should do.

nityesh soni - jodhpur/rajasthan

Name: nityesh soni
Comments: filed restitution u/s 9 in family court in Aug.2007,notices served through dasti & chaspa after 1.5 yr. Then case for custody of girl child filed along with an application for right to visit by my side . in reaction to this FIR u/s498A,406,323& 313was lodged.sec 313 not made out.Bailed out after volentry arrest on the next morning.Anticipatory bail for mother & father granted.application for cancilation of bail of mine also rejected. still FR not submitted.my father filed a case u/s 420,406,120,109,366,367.
now it has been 2 yrs. of mental cruality & desertion .what shall i do?

Krishan Gopal - sonepat

Name: Krishan Gopal
Comments: sir,
i got married on 3-2-08 as per hindu marriage act. she moved to their parent home (faridabad)on 14-2-08 without informing anybody or without anybody permission.I went to faridabad & came her back24-3-08.her behaviour was totally different at this movement, she neither respected me nor my parents and we felt that some good day will come.she again did the same on 24-4-08 and came back with me on 10-6-08.she again did the same n went to their parent house on 31-07-08 and came back on 22-3-09 without any information along with 15 people n they threatened for life.We were at that time me , my mother, my father.she stayed at sonepat home 27-3-09 but her routine was the same as earlier.my dad registered a conplaint againt those persons n the wife attitude at sonepat SP office on 24-3-09.on 27-3-09 she called some persons n they threatened us n they forcefully opened the main gate of our home n she again went out n files a complaint at women cell on 29-3-09 that me n my friend went to her room for raiping her.Police registered a case under section 354/506/34 IPC.She filled another complaint at faridabad women cell for dowary.we met Ig on 30-4-09 in this same regard n he assured us for the safety.pls guide me in this regard. thnx