Srihari Kolusu - Vijayawada

Name: Srihari Kolusu
Comments: Dear Sir,

I am working in a Private Co as a Marketing Lead, studied M.B.A, M.Tech & persuing P.Hd. my wife booked case against me on Nov 30th 2008, Police traped me and took to Police station, I agreed for all and write letter in police station and came back to my work place, after 2 months she came and started fighting with me and again kept me in police station along with my parents, local police said if u wish to stay with your husband nobody will harm you but she didn't listen and went to his hometown and filled FIR through Court, they took me and judge kept me in remand. My layer tried and got bail in one day.
Problem : my mother in law wishes that i should listen and give full salary to his daughter, which i never agreed, small family issues they took to heart and filed Case against me.

Please help me as my total family members are suffering now and i lost job because of my wife.

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Rafi - Vizag

Name: Rafi
Comments: My wife has given me mental torture for 2 years now. I wanted to marry someone else but married her to appease my parents. I tried to make it work for 2 years, after which came to know that I still keep in touch(over phone) with my gf. She suspects I am not taking care of her but I have stayed with my wife and tried to make my marriage work. I work at a bank, 6 days a week job, its was hell for the last 1 year to listen to the kitkit everyday and finally I dropped her back at her parents place. Have been staying alone since then. Its been 3 months now that I have been staying alone. I am not in touch with my parents as she has been causing trouble by threatening to lodge a dowry case against me. My father is a 2 time heart patient, my sister(33) has been missing the last 2 years, and I am keeping myself away from my family to cause no more disrepute or harm to them.

She has been threatening with the help of her relatives now to lodge the case against me and my parents and is basing my past relationship as a reason that I don't want to continue the marriage. I haven't even spoken about divorce yet but I have been considering it as I don't know when she will threaten me depending on her moods. She fights with me, harasses me and then stays at her parents place and forces me to take her back by threatening me.

I really need a way out of this mess.

Deepak - Gohana/Haryana

Name: Deepak
Comments: She left the home on 10 feb, 2009 by her own will and her mother take her at her home. Right now there is no case filed. I am afraid if she filed case then what will happen to my parents and relatives. They are trying to threaten me and my parents over phone and making a case with false allegations.

Please tell me how can I save myself and my parents and relatives from false allegations. Since our law is lenient to women so only case filing will be enough to finish my and my parents life.

m - bangalore

Name: m
Comments: wife does not want to live with my parents
insults them and does not listen to me

SOUMEN MONDAL - KOLKATA

Name: SOUMEN MONDAL
Comments: Myself brother of victims stated you that they were married on 28/1/2007. All things were right after married but the problems is arising from the girl's parent side, they need their only daughter in front of them so they offer my brother 'ghar jamai' which was not nonacceptable to my brother so they make pre planned to get their daughter with them. Now time came of first delivery & as per custom tradition her parents take him and after that all the points are just against us. Now yesterday 24/2/2009 we get a copy of 125(maintenance act) which was filed from Barasat High Court.When I go through their allegetion of 9 points which was totally false allegation. Can I submit proof against their allegation (which was mobile recording of o.p with us in presence of Barrackpore Lawyer and supporting medical documents). If we succeeded showing their allegation false then what is the next step to proceed.

AK Gupta - Ghaziabad

Name: AK Gupta
Comments: She (wife) has written in complaint to Women cell that dowry (cash & jewellry) had been given by them to us. She and their family have threatening us. How can i approach to court under Dowry Prohibition Act against them. Me and my family are suffering alot. In women cell they have provided a long list of items which they claims that they have given us. Please advice what i should write in FIR against them.

mridul sharma - faridabad

Name: mridul sharma
Comments: A complaint under section156(3) has been filed by my wife for demanding dowry and DV.
Also an article published by them in newspaper.
Kindly tell how to proceed further.

Madan Singh - New Delhi

Name: Madan Singh
Comments: My elder brother and me got married in same house on same day (i.e.20.6.2005)as per Hindu Riti-Riwaj in Ajmer (Raj.), My Bhabi don'nt wanted to leave in our joint family in Delhi, she went back to her home after one month

SURESH BHARADWAJ - SALEM/TAMIL NADU

Name: SURESH BHARADWAJ
Comments: From the time of our marriage (26.11.98), my wife was very lax & shoddy at managing the house,its matters & finances. Monthly spend consuming my entire salary. This lack of grip, involvement & sense of duty used to rile me. I used to criticise her, sometimes strongly to pull up her socks & take charge. Suddenly, since year 2007, she started alleging my renewed involvement with a woman (over a friendship which was long over with my marriage & the chapter shut). Her allegations became vitriolic & offensive. It was harassment to me over a fabrication. Her demands started getting more & more unreasonable, unfair & intimidatory. This arm twisting & black mailing nature of getting her demands. Also her behaviour bad & loud-the street fighter kind. I genuinely used to think now & then whether the whole thing is a drama/some ploy at extortion. She was taking full advantage of my sensitivities - mortification at letting others know about my private problems - my neighbours also happen to be my colleagues in office (ours is a small township, with its classical narrow mentalities), my official position makes me seek discretion & the realization how bad the effect of a poor home environment would be on my 9 year old growing son.
Then I consulted a reputed psychiatric institution/ doctors (obtaining a referral from my office)as a need for marital counselling. After 45 day residential counselling /treatment I realized (from the medicine 'Risperidone' that was prescribed to my wife, that she was suffering from a kind of mental debility - Schizophrenic/ delusional kind. I learnt requires continuous medication & some periods of stay for psychiatric counselling. My wife continued with the medicines & definitely became milder & more cogenial to have at home.
However, after one visit of hers to her home town to meet her parents, she came back stating categorically that she was discontinuing the medication (which the doctors strongly advised against) & started alleging that I was out to label her 'mad' & thus obtain a 'divorce'. The whole effort I took of getting reputed professional treatment help was branded a farce & a conspiracy. My FIL endorsed her & told me in a tone of finality & menace that I should hereafter not take any name of any professional counselling ,medication etc. neither to him or to my wife. No amount of reasoning, convincing & persuasion by me, my parents & my office superiors helped.
On the contrary they became more agressive & militant in their attitudes, laced with intimidation of preferring a Police complaint (Sec 498A) / writing to a National Commisssion of Women/ my top management etc. Already they have given a written complaint to the Chief Executive of my plant alleging alluding to the above matter & alleging which was why I was away (I don't know what else was in their letter as no copy was given or shown to me either by my wife or my organization), when I had only gone to meet my folks in Bangalore out of sheer helplessness & to consult on what I should be doing. The experience shook my confidence in her. Once 2 yrs ago I had a call from ther local Police Inspector of the area suddenly asking me to meet him with wife. When I did he enquired about (politely) & asked me to give in writng to him a statement that I & my wife were quite happy, nothing is the matter with us & that I am treating her well. I did so releived that the matter ended so quickly & simply. Recently I came to know through my wife's rantings that it was they (my FIL & she) who had given that complaint. Presumably to intimadate me into meek submission.
She is constantly brainwashing, poisoning ,emotinally black mailing my son into not speaking to me, join her in her chorus to get work done, anything purchased & in general to acceded to her whims & fancy by pressurising & brow beating me into submission. I can't see my son being MIS-USED like this. What will he do. he is baby & a mother's approval is paramount to him, eventhough I am sure, his judgement says that what is happening is unfair & incorrect.I am very anxious to protect my son from this very poisonous, ugly, detriorated home atmosphere.
My in laws are not only ill informed (my FIL is an ex-employee, Union leader from a PSU)but blindly antagonistic. They use threats of filing a Police complaint etc. if I so much as don't capitulate to hmy wife's unresonable demands & she complains to them.
Does Indian law allow me a right to live separately taking care of my son, obtaining something like a legal restraint order from court against my wife (& in laws) for my son, till such time she agrees to proceeding with her treatment?

Nayan - Pune

Name: Nayan
Comments: My wife left me 2 months back with 2 sons to her parents.Notice from Family court has been issued.

We are married for 12 years first 8 years of separation then now again separation.

Please advise under DV act,what can be nect remedy?can they arrest me if at all I visit court in Raipur alone?

Can i sustain in court without appointing lawyer and I myself present there.

My wife and in laws want to make money out of my hard earned money.please help

shimir - Ghaziabad

Name: shimir
Comments: Hi
What are the steps that can be taken by the person if they feel that there can be possiblity 498A .

What all legal and other steps that person do to save his family members and others from Fake cases .
How can the person can protect himself from this 498A .

is there any change in law coming or arrest under this law is stopped as i have heard that govt want some changes . But this is stuck due to some reasons .

Regards
Shimir

Avinash Gupta - Varanasi

Name: Avinash Gupta
Comments: What is the implication of Domestic Voilence ACt ( False) for a NRI.
How court calculate the Maintenece allowance u/s 125.

B RAMU - HYDERABAD

Name: B RAMU
Comments: I GOT MARRIED IN FEB 2006. FROM THE BEGINNING SMALL ARGUEMENTS WERE THERE BEFORE MARRIAGE AT THE TIME OF PURCHASING SAREES ETC. MOTHER IN LAW USED UNPARLIAMENTARY WORD AGAINST MY MOTHER. IN MARRIAGE ALSO SOME PROBLEMES WERE THERE. I WAS WORKED IN SBH, BASHEERABAD, RANGAREDDY DIST, AP. MOTHER STAYING IN HYDERABAD. AFTER MARRIAGE I KEPT MY WIFE AT HYDERABAD. I USE TO COME ONCE IN A WEEK. SOME HOW SHE WAS NOT ADJUSTED IN HYDERABAD AND SHE LEFT TO HER PARENTS HOUSE BY THE REASON GIVING THAT SHE WILL TAKE COACHING FOR MSC. PARENTS ARE ASLO STAYING IN HYDERABAD. AFTER GOING TO HER PARENTS SHE DID NOT TURN UP FOR 6 MONTHS. AGAIN SHE CAME IN SEPTMBER 2006. AFTER THAT TILL SEPTEMBER 2007 SHE STAYED AT MY MOTHER'S HOUSE AND IN ONE HARDLY SHE STAYED 3 MONTHS. AFTER THAT I TOOK HER MY WORKING PLACE. THERE SHE STARTED ABUSING MY FAMILY MEMBERS. ALWAYS ESTIMATE MY TERMINAL BENEFITS. IF I DYE HOW MUCH SHE WILL GET THE BENEFITS LIKE CALCULATIONS SHE USED TO DO. SHE BEATEN ME ALSO. ON 1 MAY 2008 SHE HAS LOCKED FOR SIX HOURS IN A TOILET WHERE THERE IS NO POWER AND MANY ANTS WERE THERE. I SUFFERED FOR 6 HOURS IN TOILET NAKED. THERE PARENTS GONE TO MY WORK PLACE AND MY IMAGE HAS BEEN SPOILED IN BANK AND THAT VILLAGE. DUE TO THIS I WAS RESIGNED MY JOB ALSO. ON MAY 1 AFTER COMING OUT OF TOILET (LOCKED) SOMEHOW I ESCAPED. FROM THAT SHE LEFT TO HER PARENTS HOUSE. NOW THEY BLACK MAILING US THEY WILL BOOK UNDER SECTION 498A.

kartik - chennai

Name: kartik
Comments: my wife is accusing me in everyway and talks nonense about me to my son and all her and mine relatives,she says she will use DV if i ask for sex or even ask her to make my dinner at nights,she is looking out for slighest excuse and lives at my house,i give 10000 pm to her.I fear not taking action as i love my son and my image,what to do?she dosent make food,no sex,no help physically,mentally,emotionally,and if i drink when upset threatens me of DV,i want to make this family to be together and she is bent to take me away from my child and keen on my property ,she accusses my family also.pls help me to safeguard my child atleast from her.she says if anything happens to her im responsible .what do i do?

Kamalnath Koonapalli - Finland

Name: Kamalnath Koonapalli
Comments: Hi
After a heavy torture and blackmailing from my Ex-Wife, I have applied for the divorce in Finland court in September, 2007. She tried to stop the divorce process in Finland, but could not. Then she went to India and filed a 498A case on me during April, 2007. In that her parents claimed that they have given me 1000000Rs of dowry (which is not true).
I have got final divorce in November, 2008 in Finland.
My parents were in Finland with me when she filed 498A so my Brother-In-Law and Sister were arrested and of course they got bail immediately. My parents were in underground after going to India as my father is Govt. Employee. They also got the bail also. Now Warangal police has issued a Chargesheet on me requesting to issue "Red Corner Notice".
I am still holding Indian Passport and my job includes lot of travelling to UK, US and Korea. All the time when I go to these countries I need to go through the immigration. I would like to know the following
1. How can I stop this RCN to be issued on me
2. If issued then, can I still do the International travel? I dont have any requirement to go to India anyway in my job.
3. How can we counter this 498A in India?
4. Any references to good, loyal lawyers who has knowledge about how to face 498A.

Thanks & Regards
Kamal

Nilesh - Ahmedabad

Name: Nilesh
Comments: Missuse of IPS Pannel :- 498C
My characterless wife catch me in IPC 498C.
First she want divorce from me,then her father and some body says her for do not give hime free divorce and catch him in IPC Pannel 498 C.
I want a solution for this trouble.
Pls. send me some on my mobile or email.

Nitin Gupta - Agra, UP

Name: Nitin Gupta
Comments: I am Sachin Gupta, Victims Own Brother. My Brother Nitin got married in Apr, 2008 with one of the girl from Poor family. She was 21 when getting married. My Brother was 29 and had 6 months old Boy from first wife. First wife was expired in Oct, 2007 because of Dengue (We have Medical report). Because of the 6-Months boy, We were forced to remarry him to a poor girl (Prachi Gupta) from a small town nearby. She was BA and from same Caste. We never asked for Dowry (they are not having it anyway) before or after marriage. Post Marriage, she started complaining that she sees dead wife of my Brother. In next 3-4 months, she ran away from the house with our Gold ornaments. After 1.25 year of Negotiation, she is not planning to come back (She came back to house for 4-5 days 6 months before and went back) and asking for 5 Lakh of money. Her family have threathened everyone to log the complain in Anti Dowry Case if money is not paid to them. Considering the reputation and service, we are very much afraid now and not able to find solution for this menace. My brother has very small Stationary Shop (owned and funded by my mother) and not able to gather not even 50,000 leave 5 Lakh. He has started taking loans from everyone including me. Police and other person informed us that they can not anything and will put me, my brother and mother in jail even they file the case in anti dowry. Please help us in resolving this. any guidance will be helpful. Thanks a lot.
Regards,
Sachin Gupta (On Behalf of Nitin Gupta 09927066306)
09945244418

usha richard - bangalore/Karnataka

Name: usha richard
Comments: tretenning

Nayan - Pune

Name: Nayan
Comments: I am Gujarati Brahmin 36 years Male from Mumbai

My wife left me one month back to Jabalpur [M.p.] at her Father's place and at my home in Mumbai,sent Notice thru Regd AD post from Family Court in Jabalpur.Since I was not at home,postman didn't hand it over to My parents.

Please I request what can be inside? and what can be next course of action for me and my family if Regd AD Post goes back?

I am working as accountant.My wife left me and took away 2 sons.We are married since 12 years but there was a separation of 8 years immediately after marriage.Ours is a arranged marriage.Since last 4 years we were together and she is troubling me sayting I do not spend on her or I should put a Fixed deposit of substantial sum in her name.To clarify,My parents stays away and they are not with me at all.As My wife,before re-union ,put a condition that she'll not live with my parents.

Morover,She doesn't like to work in Home at all.Bit arrogant as well fuelled by His father,who is Retired VRS taken,Who doesn't have good relation with my his only son i.e.Brother-in -law and my elder son is in too close coonection with him.

Please suugest me something.My wife wants to take away my entire savings/hard earned money over the years.

Thanks,awaiting your response

Nayan Jani

Premkumar - coimbatore/ Tamilnadu

Name: Premkumar
Comments: My wife left home all of a sudden one sunday with her father & brother who came with some unknown persons by man handling me & gave a complain in all women police station in coimbatore with a request to hand over our male child aged 5.8 years, but no dowry case or any other thing was registered then and since a solution could not be reached we were taken to the Police AC's office where too the AC of police advised her & her father to come to our house and talk it out and stay for 2 days and come back in case a result is not got, but was refused by her & her father so the AC asked us to come the next day. The next day we approached our advocate & as per a law mentioned that a male child above 5 years father is the guardian we refused to hand over the child and subsequently gave a petition to the commissioner of police who in turn directed the all women police station inspector to abstain from removing the child from our custody.

Annoyed by the above she moved to her native and filled a false and fraudulent complain before the court under protection of women in domestic violence act 2005 stating that the child is only 4.5 years old & that we are planning to give him on adoption to the U.S., dowry etc. etc (around 25 allegations) & got a Ex party intereme relief order to hand over the child , we approached the High court for an appeal against the order & to transfer the case to the family court coimbatore where we filled a permanent injection order for the custody of child. She is not appearing in any of the courts.

My doughts
1. is there any precedents showing a transfer of cases (criminal (498A etc,etc to the family court( who i feel is the competent court to decide on such matter also who has the power to hear such cases)

2. what action can I take on my wife for filling such false cases

3. Action to be taken on the All women Inspector of police for forceabley entering into our house with my wife & her relatives & threatening my mother who was alone there to hand over the child when we were at the AC of police office.

4. On my father in law & brother in law & other unknown persons with them who manhandled me causing injuries to me and also tried to run over their car over me for which I got medical treatment in the GH (Government hospital)admitted on assault case on the same day and also preferred a complain in the police commissioner office to the local police station inspector. But did not presue the case after since all advised me not to which may hinder in our reunion later .

Please advice mainly on my point no. 1 for transfer of case at the earliest & others too.on ways to proceed.

Please advice if there is any contact person & phone no. to whom I can call or meet personally for expert advice

Expecting your reply...

with regards

Naveen - Mumbai

Name: Naveen
Comments: Dear Sir/Madam

The wife of my younger brother filed a case under 498A at Gurgaon. The girl belongs to a very influential family. The girl had pre-marital affair with one of her senior batchmates at college and also has some psychological problems. She had attempted suicide before marriage and was undergoing treatment for depression/psychosis, the facts about which we came to know only after marriage. ALL THESE THINGS HAVE BEEN ADMITTED BY THE BROTHER OF THE GIRL IN WRITING. I HAVE EMAILS FROM HIM TO PROVE THIS. We also have several medical and other records also. WE HAD HER MEDICAL PRESCRIPTIONS FOR TREATMENT BY PSYCHIATRIC EVEN BEFORE MARRIAGE ALSO.

The complaint lodged by the girl is totally false and factually wrong. My brother was arrested by the Gurgaon police and was granted bail by the honourable court after one day. The email admissions by the brother of teh girl and medical prescriptions of the girl (for the period before and after marriage) convinced the judge about the innocence of my brother.

My parents applie dfor anticipatoty bail. Court accepted the Anticipatory Bail of my father but rejected the same for my brother on teh ground that my mother has allegedly tortured the girl and she had taken her jewellery. They even submitted fake Jewellery Bills to support their claim. We applied for anticipatory bail from High Court. The matetr is pending in High Court. Meanwhile, we found out that jewellery shop in question never existed. Instead a MOVER AND PACKER used to operate from that place. I also got from Municipal Committe that such jewellery shop never existed during 2005 to till date (marriage took place on Feb 03, 2006). A copy of all the documents viz emails, medical prescriptions and other documents related to jewellery bills have been submitted to Police as well as High Court. However, Police refuses to take cognizance all these things stating that unless court orders we cannot take cognizance of these facts. WHAT SHOULD WE DO UNDER THESE CIRCUMSTANCES.

Moreover, my parents never stayed with my younger brother. They use dto stay with me and the same is recorded in ration card also. Girl has falsely state dthat she had stayed with me for some time. There are several false allegations in the FIR which i can prove from records/government documents availavle with me. But even then police is not taking cognizance. I have proofs to show that the documents have been given to police. Even the copies of the same have been sent by email to Comissioner of Police also. Though i have enough material to prove our innocence but neither court nor police is ready to accept these proofs. Another major hurdle is that the case has been filed in Gurgaon while the jewellery bills and other proofs belong to Mumbai. PLEASE ADVISE US.

Meanwhile, just few days back, efforts were made by the mediators to arrive at some out of court settlement. Medaitors asked me to sign an MoU. Please let me know what is the validity of such documents. Mou shough be signed and witnessed by whom. What points we should take care during signing of such documents. The mediator is asking us to deposit with him a DD in favour of Girl for the settlement amount. Is there any other legal way of giving money to girl where both the parties are legally bound to honour the terms and conditions.

Mintu Manna - Delhi

Name: Mintu Manna
Comments: I am working in Govt.Aided school,as LDC,my senior a lady UDC,when I joined my duty she was infaver me,& gradually we came in closed,& then we had better relation,but after my merrige she joined A watchman in this school,she want to back to me also but I denied,so she disturb me,often,both were playing many loly Poly rolls,nobody denied to doing this activity,& she often done unbehaviourable activity,the School Management committee also not say him any words,& this lady is fully opened,so after few days she become my Boss as Head Clerk,so I want some precoution as well as advice,that she not joined me as well as disturbe,or have some legeale procidure to avoid him.If you give your precious time, I will obliged to you.

rakesh - New Delhi

Name: rakesh
Comments: My wife is staying with her parents from past more then six months. Now her parents wants me to sing on stamp that she will stay with me and will not work at home. I have to avoid my mother, younger brother & married sister. Else they will go into the court against dowry. I have a son (one year old) and much worried for his future. Her parents are very much involved in our personal life. They want me to live my life as per their wish. Please help.

amit chaudhary - modinagar

Name: amit chaudhary
Comments: at present my wife is al set to file 498a.her father has threatened me n my family that they has lodged 498a against me.from may 2007 vo apne ghar pe hai, jabke hmare marriage september 2006 me hue the.hmara ek baby bhi hai.uske father central excise me hai, n he has illegal money of bribery.i always ready that vo ghar aa jaye par always she refuses to come. she threatened me n my family, at present she has given the application in visheshwar ganj kotwali(mahila thana)at varanasi.my heartly request yhi hai ki vo aa jaye par uske father ka itna involvement hai meri jindagi me ki meri wife mere against ho gaye hai

Ratan Prakash - Jamshedpur

Name: Ratan Prakash
Comments: Since the date of my marriage (arranged) in 1994, my mother-in-law and her relatives have poisioned my wife's mind against me which adversely affected our relationship. Slowly, she was brainwashed in to beleiving that I was not an eligible life partner to her and that I was impotent, even though we had a daugter to raise.Due to my nature of service I had to work in Himachal, Ahmedabad, Bangalore with family from 1993-2001. I n 2001 I joined the Tata Group in Jamshedpur. Now the mental problem of my wife aggravated and als oresulted in a depression which caused me acute agony and stress.
I almost lost my job because of it. My mother-in-law ad her family used to clal my wife and ask her to run-away from Jamshedpur to Ranchi and file for divorce to demand a huge sum in alimony and to spoil the child's mind too. The result : she ran away from Jamshedpur several times since 2001 on the fake ground of domestic violence.
Actions taken : We recoursed to the family court. All her charges were found to be fake and she was sternly adviced to stop being a foot ball and resume the conjugal life. But my in-laws continued to damage our marital life by their ill-advices and made her beleive that she is ruining her life by staying with me.

Due to this stress and deep agony I met with a near fatal accident in April 2007 and bashed up my right shoulder. I was ivalid for 52 days during which she had worked out her plans to desert me for good.
Im May 2007, she left me in the invalid condition and ran away again to Ranchi. She had carried away all the jwellery and cash and other valuables with her. She returned on 16th June and again ran away on 18th June 2007. Since then she has not returned. In August we get an unsigned document from her advocate with baseless charges and a demand for 80 crores.
Actions taken: We sent a legal reply denying all her charges
Filed an informatory petition before tha family court at Ranchi
Informed the local police station at Jamshedpur about her running away with my daughter and all the jwellery, cash and other valuables to Ranchi.
Several negotiation meetings were organized, but every time my wife did not come. Instead the in-laws screamed and shouted and threatened that if we don ot succumb to their demands, they will file fake charges 498A et all.
They have not filed any case so far and want us to give the money (Rs. 5 lacs .. without any receipt and a whole list of house hold appliances).
I wanted to file a suit for RCR and also for child custody before it is too late in the day as they are in no mood to compromise and are highly non-commital. I am not allowed to visit my child and she has also been asked not to call me or contact my family in any way.

Please advice the right course of action.

sandeep - nashik

Name: sandeep
Comments: Actually I am seeking advice on behalf of my brother.

Married in last March, and after only 2 months wife started asking to transfer my assets (LIC, CAR, and HOUSE) which I had bought on loan before marriage, on her name even trying to persuade me for seeking my share from my parents. Thus telling me to come with her to stay near her parents take care of her family (leave my elderly parents alone) since the only earning member in her family is her father with a very low income and 2 brothers (age 24, 25) dropped from education and earning nothing. Wife works with MNC since 6 yrs and was feeding her family which suddenly reduced as usual after marriage. Considering her poverty I allowed her to support (financially) her family members (brothers) to get some earning. Apart from her supporting her family I refused her demands as they all were my assets before marriage. But I tried to explain her that eventually all is owned by wife after husband so not to worry about it, but all in vain.

This did not stop here. On one day when my Dad had come to visit me (since I and wife were staying in another city for job) she turned it into opportunity and initially she put her demands before me or else telling me that she will file IPC-498 against my Dad and my family which though not fully but turned to reality. At the Police station the officer told me to write an application as wife requires (about not harming, hurting etc.,. to her and if anything happens to her myself and my family will be responsible & like wise) or else she will immediately file IPC-498. For no to happen this I had to write a letter.

Also when were to meet along with both parties over above matter wife with her brothers had beaten my parents and brother for which we registered an FIR.

Basically we are a very modest family and also never ever asked a penny (or dowry) from other party since we thought she is working so no need. In fact we also had taken into account her poverty which reflected in many terms in marriage.

Like every family we had never went and dreamed of going to police station but the lady has shown us the doors.

Since we definitely believe she will be filing IPC-498 I wanted to ask whether we can get Anticipatory Bail prior hand and how? Also if the case is filed against me then who has to prove the case the accused or the complainer?

Thank you for reading my problem. I would appreciate if you could reply me on my mail id: mathure_sandeep@rediffmail.com.

Nishtha - Udaipur

Name: Nishtha
Comments: We went to Dubai to take our daughter in law for delivery ,which was pre decided to be held at our residence at Udaipur with the consent of her parents.When we were to come to India,the parents of our daughter in law made a pressure upon us that their daughter be sent for delivery from Dubai to Jodhpur. Because it was her first delivery so We (in laws)did not oppose and send her to parents house giving enough money with her .She has taken with her all ornament which we have given to her in engagement and marriage saying that she will wear in function.She has given birth to a baby on 20th June 2008.This was the first baby of our only son ,so We Dada-Dadi and Father of the born baby (Who came from Dubai to see the baby)went to meet the baby with gifts for all their family members and ornaments(4 kangans+1 chain) and 2 valuable sarees for our daughter in law.Next day ,We have only suggested to her parents about taken care of her diets of the delivery period . The parents of our daughter in law shouted on us and insulted us.We came back to Dubai.Up till now they have not applied for Baby`s passport.In the mean time the residence visa of our daughter in law has also expired Now when we mailed them asking about baby`s passport ,they put conditions that our son should come to India for the passport of baby and after that their daughter be sent from Dubai to Rajasthan (India) after every 3 months.We came to know by the mail of our friend that they are planning to file a Dowry case(498A)against us.We are university professors and our son and we are anti-dowry person.All the staff of both of universities and relatives of both sides know this marriage as without dowry marriage.We were only 11 persons as Barati and have not taken even any single gift from them.On the other hand my son is working in a Real Estate Company in Dubai,His income was quite good,knowing about his earnings ,our daughter in law wanted that her parents also be given monitory support in lakhs of rupees as she told our son to do so, that our son refused.So they indirectly making pressure on us to give them money.So they are holding our daughter in law and grand daughter with them.Our daughter in law is giving full support to her parents. How painful is for us now to hear about falls DOWRY CASE 498A against us?WHAT SHOULD WE DO?- Nishtha

Saurab C - Mumbai

Name: Saurab C
Comments: Wife never wanted me to maintain relationship with my family. Short tempered and uses extremely abusive language. We had a scuffle once or twice and her ferocity made me take cover (:)). Recently I had to tale mom to Pune for my elder brother's b'dy. Could not disclose to her since it would raise a hell. She found out that I had been with mom an had taken my camera. She went to fight with mom and man-handled her. When I asked her to leave mom's flat (close to mine) she threatned police case saying that I beat her everyday. Said that she will use her Marathi (i am not a marathi) advantage and compleint to police and will get me beaten up so much that I will not be able to operate a computer ever (i am a software professional). Also she promised to "take care " of mom and if I intervene she will immediately call the police. Language is practically unprintable. She contineouslt telle my 4 year old daughter to call me a "CHAKKA" and that I beat her mercilessly. Daughter looks at her face and says "mummy ab chup ho jao....."

vishnu - hyderabad

Name: vishnu
Comments: hi i am writing onbehalf of my brother.
my sister in law left the house 6 moths ago and living seperately from my brother.both side parents tried to keep them to stay together but failed.now they(parents of my sister in law) threating us to file a case on my entire family if we won't give 5 lacs towards her. ours is a well educated family and we never went to court or police.
please advice us how to face this case.
we r in hyderabad and my brothers are in HYD and 1 brother in USA.

Saurabh Juneja - Vivek Vihar Delhi

Name: Saurabh Juneja
Comments: The bride and her parents on the pretext of compromise called the groom family at Jind.The compromise was arrived at on 18.1.2009 and accepted 1100 rupees as mark of blessing. Bride got the case registered on 21.1.2009 at Jind and police party from Jind PS arrived at Delhi and arrested groom and his parents; lodged them in lock up; produced them next day before magistrate reemanded to JC. Next parents bailed out. Groom bailed out out after 22 days. Haryana police never referred case to CAW Cell in Jind; nor conducted proper investigation or collected proofs but made arrest in hafhazard manner to humiliate parents to extort money.

K.C.Sagar - Lucknow

Name: K.C.Sagar
Comments: I am residing in lucknow in own house with my family in a colony planned by the Lucknow Development Authority.Mr.A has purchased a residential plot(4000Sq.Ft.) apposit my house one year back from the allotee.Now Mr.A is going to construct a building i.e dounbe/three storie Hall on covered area 2500 Sq Ft.for that a basement is under construction on the 2500 Sq Ft area of plot. Mr. A having business of "Tent and catering". it is leant that the construction is being made by Mr. A. for the use of Marriage Hall.if the the construction takes place, the peace of my family will be disturb from the nuisance of DJ Music, Band Music and crackers daily.the traffic as well as education of children will also be disturbed , as a school is running just apposit the plot.
(1)What action is taken by to save my peace?
(2) Can I file a PIL in the High Court without engaging a Lawer?

Balkrishna Agarwal - Erode

Name: Balkrishna Agarwal
Comments: There have been problems in the marriage v.similar to the ones I have read on this site. Now after beating my brother(my brother has her nail marks all over his body) she has gone to police station & filed complaint(i think, the complain is that brother has beaten her, im not sure). I hope to have legal proceedings following this.

harjit - ambala/hry

Name: harjit
Comments: Case 498a reg/ got cancelled after NHRC enq/but loose divorce case due to dishonesty of so called Judge/ there is lot to say so later on

Navid Ahmed - mumbai

Name: Navid Ahmed
Comments: Hi,
My wife is very figiting nature and so her family is supporting her in all her wrong things she since married never become a wife who take care of home and she don`t do any house work and alsoways fights for small issues and now since last 3 months she is at her place and not willing to come back.
I tried but what she thinks i will beg her to comeback,
please i am fedup of this life and some time i feel doing sucide if i don`t get ride of all this.
Her family gives me threats every now and then that they will make my job go away and will see to it i will be in jail for 7 years .. each of my known people knows how much i cared for her and did all possible things to keep her happy but she ca`t forget and don`t want to leave her mom she loves to stay there so why she married .
She is suffering from so many illiness from day one of my marriage whcih was not told to us before marriage (Soem illiness are PCOD,Bleeding from teeth, Joint pain, Stomach pain, ) for which i tried my level best to cure but she don`t take medicine on time,
Now she is 5 months pregnant and she thinks she can blakc mail me she says she will come when she wants else she says go and do what i can.
Plz help me.

Navid

Sanjoy Dutta - Mumbai

Name: Sanjoy Dutta
Comments: Dear Sir/Madam,

sinxce our marriage, my in laws are interfering in our life and my wife always largely inclined to them. Initially I though it is natural after marriage and that after few years it will go and my wife will be more attentive to our own family. However, the same did not happen. Our kid was born, i changed my job and location of stay...but nothing changed in her. Very recently, ny wife become very violent and always threatinging me for 498. Last sunday she left my house alongwith the kid and living with her parents. I am clueless what to do.....we are married for last 10 years and this is the second time that she left my house and started living with her own parents.

I need someone at Mumbai to consult the my situation and go forward.

Madan kumar - Hyderabad

Name: Madan kumar
Comments: Me, my father and mother are aquitted by district court and a revision petition is filed in high court of A.P. Can you please help.
Whole case may not be explained here. Please let me know how can i explain the case.

Kaushal Kishor - Visakhapatnam

Name: Kaushal Kishor
Comments: Willing tohelp others and take a active participationaganist policeand lawyers because it is they who extract a lot of money.

Yuvraj Kishore - Ramanathapuram/TN

Name: Yuvraj Kishore
Comments: 1. Wife left house Aug 2004.

2. Approach to family court in Jul 07 at district.

3. Women cell asked her final decision willing to go or not?

4. She fieled the case in lower court Aug 07 498a and Maintenance 125.

5. Lower court given decision

6. Approach to Allahabad High court Dec 08. Court given stay order till 28 Jan 09.

7. Next hearing date is on 20 Feb 09.

8. Police taken to my mother to police station overruling High court judgement on 07 Feb 09. Approach to court for bail the same day. Magistrate warn the Police officer how dare u to take her against the high court order(Stay order). Court left my mother on same day after five hours in police station.

What to do ?

Dave - Canada

Name: Dave
Comments: Married in 2004 in India, sponsered her twice and got rejected by immigration,visted her twice, sent her lots of money.She wanted me to live in India because she knows she cannot get the immigration as she had been rejected before the marriage as well. I did not want to pack up from Canada, it is not easy to go for extended periods to India, i have to make my mortgage payments too and i would loose my job and everything in Canada. She and her family has taken over my family home in India and registered 498A in 2006. No one in my extended family has time to sit in India and wait for courts to resolve this case, besides no one asked for dowry because no one is in the country except an Aunt& Uncle over 75,all seven members are extended family and have minimal input in my life.My Aunt is cancer patient and has her own problems. We do not any kids, had lots of fighting on long distance phone after marriage.No amount of money i sent was enough.
We have provided lot of documented proof of sponsership plus appeal and money sent to her, phone bills etc. The case is sitting for 3 years now,how are foriegners supposed to sit in India till the Indian justice system resolves the case. Got any answers?

rafi - chennai

Name: rafi
Comments: I was arredted in Aug 2008 and released on bail(zamanath).
we were living in Bangalore till 2006.then I moved to chennai on work.My wife was working and living in Bangalore only.
she then left to her mothers home in june 2007 to bombay and filed a 498a case.
Presently i have applied for quashing on jurisdriction grounds in mumbai high court

Shivani Sirohi - noida,UP

Name: Shivani Sirohi
Comments: Myself living in noida with my husband,married for last one year.problem is related with my husband's brother and his wife.they both have some personal problems in their marriage and inspite of resolving it she is threatning every family member including her husband to lodge a complaint for dowry and IPC 307.Her husband has already filed for divorce.
Pls suggest me what precautionery step should we take to save ourself from her threats as we are no where responsible for her problems,we are living seperate and doing our own jobs and has no concern about her personal problem.

prasant kumar paichha - Mumbai

Name: prasant kumar paichha
Comments: my wife had went to her native,after discussing with her parent in the month of may 2007,and i went to her place to bring her back and she did not come along with me as she deos not like to stay with my parents,and asked me to change my location to hyderabad ,i tried my best fro 2 month to get a job in hyderabad,but was not able to do so,then they called us for a meeting in august and alleged me saying i am immone(hinzda)and said they will send thier daughter in november,instead they filed an FIR mentioning that i used to beat her and did not give her foods to eat and a FIr has been lodged with 498A,34,307 of IPC and DP act 3,4,&5

PRASENJIT KUMAR PAUL - shillong

Name: PRASENJIT KUMAR PAUL
Comments: 1. I have been facing problems with my wife since marriage due to her unadjustable attitude and disrespect towards me or members of family. After she conceived I was forced by circumstance created by her to shift to her parents place. After reaching there she severed all contacts and would never respond to phone calls. During deleviry she never informed me but on information from friends received after 3 days from deleviry of my child, I rushed to hospital were I was again insulted and she refused to return home. After lots of pursuasion when she returned to my residence, she made me follow her terms and conditions and I obliged for the sake of my daughter. However after about 9months of stay she again left home with my child on the pretext of looking for a job. Again she severed all ties and most of my telephone calls went unattended. Whenever I used to go to her house along with friends and relatives and ask her to come back her parents would insult me severly and throw out false and inhuman allegation. Finally on her terms when I took a seperate house to reside with her and my child, she made me purchase furniture worth more than Rs. 50000/- and after staying for one night left for her parents house along with her child. I pursuaded her to come back but she refused. I went to her parents residence again to request her to come back but she along with her parents insulted me severly. I requested her atleast to allow me to meet my daughter but after a few days they created a unnecessary scene and I was forced to leave her residence and her dad went to the extent of threatening that if I came again to meet my daughter he would file false criminal cases against me. Having no alternative I filed a suit for restitution of congigual rights. The court has called for reconciliation between the parties. She has evaded the court on two occasions on medical ground and left for kolkata and the 3rd is around the corner. It is nearly 6 months since I filed the suit and now I have come to learn that she is now determined to haress me and said she would only compromise if I leave my widowed father behind and come to kolkata permanently and that too I have to stay with her parents.Moreover, I am a govt. employee and my transfer is not in my hands which is she is not understanding. I am really missing my minor daughter. My lawer says I have not alternative but to wait till she returns from kolkata.
So please advice if there is any other thing I can do to meet my daughter occassionally even if my wife does not return for a long time.
Thanking you in anticipation

Regards

prasenjit kumar paul

Binod Kumar - Delhi

Name: Binod Kumar
Comments: my marraige has been fixed before 3 years. my fatherinlaw at that time had aggred that he will take care of my studies and after my study marriage will happen, because my family cannot aford my studies. but as now after my study has been complete, he is saying he will not marry her daughter with me. and now he is demanding the whole money which he had spend on me in 3 years(approx 8 lakh). my family financial condition is not good and i am also not in jod, so we are not in a position to repay the amount. now my fatherinlaw is saying that he will sue in the court. we are in a great trouble.
Please advice me what should i do. i will be very thank ful to you.

vijay - bangalore/Karnataka

Name: vijay
Comments: Wife filed false 498a,She is a practising lawyer in bangalore(civil,and family)
Parentsare in bangalore having antisipatory bail.
I,sister and brother-in-law residing overseas.
Wife has applied for impounding of my passport,excecuted,and requested time from honourable court.
Having a lawyer in bangalore,nothing positive is happening,its draging.
Please advise
Thank you

Dr K PONSINGH - CHENNAI/TAMILNADU

Name: Dr K PONSINGH
Comments: DAILY I AM GOING TO APPEAR THE COURT, CUSTODY OF CHILDREN, MAINTANENCE,WOMENCOMMISSION, PROTECTION OFFICER, CITYCIVIL COURT, MY BROTHER WHO IS A GOVERNMENT EMPLOYEE .SEEKING ANTI'BAIL.MY WIFE IS USING POLITICAL PRESSURE TO THE POLICE FILING FIR AGAINST MY BRITHER NOWSEEKING BAIL, NOT GRANTED FOR THE PAST TWO MONTHS IN CHENNAI PRINCIPLE JUDGE COURT TILL NOW.NOW FALSE COMPLAINTS SENT TO MY BROTHERS OFFICEBY MY WIFESHE WANTS TOPUNISH MY BROTHER ALSOTO SUSPENDHIM. I WAS SUSPENDED ALREADY.I NEED HELP FROMYOURSIDE TO STOP ALL THOSE PROCEEDINGS AND COMEOUT OF FROM THE PROBLEMS.

Vijay - Bangalore/Karnataka

Name: Vijay
Comments: Wife filed false498a.She is a practising lawyer in bangalore(Civil and family)
Parents are in bangalore having antisipatory bail.
Myself,sister and brother-in-law residing overseas.
Wife has applied for impounding of my passport,executed, and requested time from honourable court.
Having a lawyer in bangalore,but nothing positive is happening.its draging.
Please advise.
Thank you

Subodh Sharma - Mumbai

Name: Subodh Sharma
Comments: My parents were not staying with me... I am a salaried person..... I use to give her parents money as she said that her brother is not able to help them....... there is lot of stuff but this is the brief. When I said that my brother has met with accident.... and i will not be able to support her parents for this month.... she left the house and then filled complaint against me and my family...... 4 months after my marriage i was already threaten to give money to her parents and they have also asked me to write letters for it. since then i was helping her family...... when i refused this is what i get....

Rao - hyderabad

Name: Rao
Comments: 498-a, 506, 323 IPC, R/w 34 IPC sec 4 & 6 DP Act