Name: ravi singh
Comments: • In September 2002 ,I got a message from xxxxx through shadi.com ,at that time I was working in Saudi Arabia since feb1999 • In Saudi my total saving per month some times exceeds 1 lakhs per month apart from other benefits like annual bonus and regular increments and promotions which was based on performance.
• Though I joined there as electrician, I worked hard and within very short time I got many promotions and became the process control engineer.
• (When ever I used to go to my village on vacation there used to be lots of marriage offer for me offering large amount of dowry as normal custom in eastern part of U.P. but I was earning enough money and was looking for a homely and faithful girl who can adjust in village environment as well as abroad too.
• We used to chat and email each other and I was very impressed with her thinking and way of talking ,I told her every thing about myself and my family ,I told her that I have a huge responsibility of my younger brother who is mentally ill and after my parents I have to take care of him ,also my village is in remote area and it is some times difficult to stay there due to frequent power cuts ,SHE TOLD ME THAT IT IS NOT IMPORTANT WHERE ONE IS STAYING BUT WITH WHOM A PERSON IS STAYING.
• After a month or so one day she told me that her mother is having a boutique not because she like ,but she is forced to do so as her father is a principle is a private school and he has to spend a lot on her younger brother who is doing medical by paying donation in some place in Karnataka, so they are very tight in financial
• She told me that she is not getting married just because of the the condition her father is not able to give the huge amount of dowry which people are asking in her area.
• I WAS VERY MUCH TOUCHED BY KNOWING THIS FACT AND AT THIS POINT OF TIME I ALMOST DECIDED THAT I WILL MARRY THIS GIRL WHO CAN UNDERSTAND THE FAMILY VALUES AND ALSO SEEN THE REALITY OF LIKE AS WHAT THE PROVERTY IS
• MEAN TIME SHE TOLD ME THAT HER FATEHER AND FAMILY WANTS ME TO STAY NEAR DELHI OR GURGOAN AND TOLD ME WHY DON’T I BUY A PLOT THERE ,SO I SEND HIS FATHER US $ 1000+ (EQV =RS50000/= ) FROM BANK FROM SAUDI ARABIA FOR HUDA GURGOAN RESIDENCIAL PLOT ALLOTMENT ,LATER HER FATHER TOLD ME THAT MY NAME DIDN’T CAME IN LIST AND THE RETURN MONEY FROM HUDA HE STILL KEPT WITH HIM.
• I informed my parents about her and said that I wanted to marry this girl whom I met on net ,my parents told me that their happiness lies in my happiness and they don’t have any objection for any girl which I select .
i paid her around 3 lakh rupees for her brother medical education before my marrige itself.
we meet on net in september 2002 ,i came to india and got engaged in november 2002 and our marrige was fixed in april 2003 as per my annual holidays .
• DURING OUR FIRST PHYSICAL MEETING ,I SEEN HERE WAS BIG STRETCH MARKS AROUND HER STOMACH AND IT WAS VERY STARNGE TO ME ,I ASKED HER WHAT IS THAT ,AND HOW DID IT HAPPEN TO HER AND WHY SHE DIDN’T TOLD TO ME EVER WHEN WE SHARED EVERY THING .SHE TOLD ME THAT THIS WAS DUE TO SOME REACTION OF MEDICINE AS SHE IS HAVING SOME PHYSICAL PROBLEMS ,IT WAS DUE TO SOME REACTION OF MEDICAL TREATMENT AND SHE BECAME FAT AND THIS IS THE REASON ,SHE WANTED TO TELL THIS TO ME BUT FEARING THAT SHE WILL LOOSE ME SHE DIDN’T TOLD ME AND THEN SHE STARTED CRYING ,I WAS BIT ANNOYED WITH THIS FACT BUT AFTER SOME MINUTES WE WERE TOGERTHER
• After 2-3 days at home we started for our honeymoon,to kullu manali ,we reached delhi and her father came and dropped us to the TRAVELS OFFICE .
1. When we were about to reach delhi she started calling and talking to many people ,I objected as who are all these people and what is the need of calling them for so long ,I asked her why don’t she talk to me ,we are going to honeymoon.she told me that she is talking to her family and relatives.
2. in evening we went to sindia travel in CP/Delhi and I paid rs40000/= for all our expenses which we will incure during our journey ,THIS TRIP COSTED RS20000/= AND REMAINING AMOUNT WAS GIVEN BACK BY HER FATHER TO MY DADDY LATER WHEN I WAS IN SAUDI ARABIA.
3. WHILE I WAS KEEPING OUR LUGGAGE INSIDE THE BUS SHE WENT OUT TO BUY SOME SNACKS AND WATER FOR JOURNEY ,AFTER SOME TIME WHEN SHE TOOK LONG TIME I LOOK THROUGH THE WINDOW OF BUS AND SAW SHE WAS HUGGING AND KISSING A BOY ,I BECAME VERY ANGRY AND CAME OUT OF BUS ,SHE ALSO COAME AND I HAD A HEATED ARGUMENT WITH ME ON THIS MATTER ,I TOLD HER THAT WE CAN GO BACK TO VILLAGE ,WHO WAS THAT PERSON ?AND HOW CAN SHE HUG AND KISS A UNKNOWN BOY ,SHE TOLD ME THAT HE WAS A DISTANT BROTHER AND CAME TO JUST MEET HER ,I REAIN ANGRY TILL THE BUS CAME OUT OF DELHI ,SHE KEPT SAYING SORRY FOR THAT ,AFTER SOME TIME THINGS BECAME NORMAL AND WE STARTED LAUGHING AND PLAYING WITH EACH OTHER .
4. WE REACHED MANALI AND CAME TO RESORT ,IT WAS VERY BIG RESORT .WE HAD DINNER AND IN NIGHT AFTER HAVING SEX I SLEPT DEEP AND WHEN I GOT UP FOR URINE I FOUND SHE WAS NOT THERE ON BED ,WHEN I LOOKED AROUND AND FOUND THAT SHE WAS TALKING TO SOME ONE ON PHONE IN THE GARDEN IN MID NIGHT ,I WENT OUT AND CALLED HER AS WHAT IS THE NEED OF TALKING IN MIDNIGHT TO SOME ONE ,SHE TOLD ME THAT SHE IS TALKING TO ONE OF HER BROTHER AS SHE IS MISSING HER FAMILY A LOT AND STARTED CRYING ,I TOOK HER TO THE ROOM AND TRIED TO MAKE HE RFEEL MODE COMFORTABLE THERE,I ASLO ASKED IF SHE WANT WE CAN GO BACK TO HER HOME TOO ,BUT SHE BECAME ALRIGHT AND SAID THAT ITS OK NOW ,AND WE SLEPT AGAIN.
5. DURING OUR TALKING AT KULLU /MANALI SHE USED TO TELL VERY STRANGE THING WHICH I FELT VERY UNCOMFORTABLE AND ANNOYING E.G
SHE USED TO TELL THAT SHE USED TO STAY MAX WITH BOYS FROM CHILDHOOD AND MAX OF HER FRIENDS ARE BOYS ONLY AND VERY FEW GIRLS
SHE TOLD ME THAT SHE IS HAVING A FRIEND WHO IS HAVING A RECRUIT AGENCY ,ONE DAY SHE WENT TO HIM IN SARI AND HE TOLD PLEASE DON’T COME IN SARI ELSE I WILL LOOSE MY CONTROL
SHE TOLD THAT ONCE SHE HAS ASKED HER FRIEND AS WHICH FILMS HE LIKES ,HE TOLD HER THAT HE LIKES BLUE FILMS ,AND THEN SHE ASKED ME WHAT IS BLUE FILM ETC..I HAD A HEATED ARGUMENT ON THIS THING AND TOLD HER NOT TO TALK ABOUT HER FRIENDS ANY ONE WHEN I AM WITH HER ,I TOLD HER WHEN I AM WITH HER I JUST THINK ABOUT HER BUT WHY SHE IS THINKING OF HER FRIENDS ?? SHE SAID SORRY AND WILL NEVER TALK AT ALL ,I SAID I AM NOT STOPPING HER FROM TALKING BUT FROM WHAT SHE IS TALKING.SHE TOLD ME THAT SHE IS VERY OPEN TO ME AND WANT TO SHARE EVERY THING ,THEN I SAID OK
THOUGH IT WAS ANNOYING FOR ME BUT SOME WHERE IN MY MIND I HAD A THOUGHT THAT ONLY INNOCENT PEOPLE CAN TALK OPENLY ,IF SHE IS CROOK SHE WILL HIDE THIS KIND OF THINGS
6. when we went for the kullu trip on car ,she was busy sending the sms every minutes,I was busy with the beauty of mountains and valley and every time the ring of sms disturbs me ,I objected her oas why she is inside the the mobile all the time and to whom she is sending the sms,she told me all her family members are sending messages and she is replying to them .then I asked which relatives are disturbing us on our honeymoon trip and show me the sms ,the she told that it is not manner to see some one else message ,..at this point of time I had doubt about her ,that what is there which a husband and wife cant share that too on honeymoon trip..
7. when we came back to hotel we were tired of journey and she went to bath ,in mean time I checked her mobile which was on table near cot ,I was shocked to read that ,one of the messages was like this …I love you and I cant live without her and want to meet her ,and asked when she is back to delhi , THIS IGNITED A SUSPECION IN ME ,THIS IS FIRST TIME I HAD SUSPESION THAT THERE IS SOME THING WRONG WITH HER AND THAT’S WHY SHE IS IGNORING ME LIKE THIS .I developed suspension her .
• WHILE WE WERE HAVING SEX IN NIGHT ON ROOF TOP SUDDENLY THE PHONE RANG AND SHE LEFT INBETWEEN AND WENT DOWN TO ATTEND THE PHONE ,LATER I ALSO WENT DOWN AND HEARD HER SAYING THAT //BY NEXT MONTH SHE WILL SURELY COME TO DELHI AND THEN MEET HIM AND THEN SAID I LOVE YOU AND KEPT THE PHONE ,THIS HURT ME SO MUCH THAT I THOUGHT OF FIGHTING HER DUING NIGHT ONLY ,BUT THINKING ABOUT THE VILLAGE SOCIETY AND MY PARENTS I KEPT QUITE ,BUT THIS RAISED FURTHER MY SUSPECION ON HER .BUT SINCE IT WAS LOVE MARRIGE AND THAT TOO 100% MY OWN DECISION MI WAS IN DILEMMA AS WHOM TO SHARE MY GRIVIENCES ,AS EVERY ONE WILL TELL ITS ME WHO MARRIED A GIRL THROUGH NET JUST BY MEETING HER ONE DAY ,WITHOUTH KNOWING ANY THING OTHER THAN WHAT SHE HAS TOLD ,I TRIED TO TELL HER THAT SUCH THINGS HURT ME ,THEN SHE TOLD ME THAT THOUGH I AM WORKING ABROAD BUT I AM NARROW MINDIED ,IN DELHI TALING AND CALLING AND KEEPING BOYFRIENDS IS COMMON THINGS AND NO ONE CARES
• When I came to SAUDI ARABIA ,I was not very happy by her behaviours and things she did ,I told this to close friend of mine and he told that he will find this out and will help me by checking though her mail if he can find some thing but it will take time , since it is difficult to know actual details when staying in abroad about a person who is ns India ,AFTER A MONTH OR SO HE WAS ABLE TO CRACK HER PASSWORD AND OPENED HER MAILS AND WAS SHOCKED TO READ THAT SHE WAS HAVING AFFAIRS WITH MANY PERSON AND THAT MAILS IS SAVED WHICH REVEALED THAT SHE HAS GOT PHYSICAL RELATION WITH MANY BOYS IN DELHI .
• ALSO EVEN AFTER ENGAGEMENT SHE USED TO FOOL BOYS BY SAYING SAME THING WHICH SHE TOLD ME THAT SHE IS POOR ,I GOT ONE PERSON FROM WHIM SHE TOOK MONEY BY FOOLING HUM ,WHEN I CONTACTED THAT PERSON THEN I WAS SURPRISED THAT SHE USED TO CHARGE MONEY FOR SLEEPING .
• Even though she was chatting with me at same time she was also chatting with other at same time .
• Through her mails I came to know that recently she had sex with a person name xxxx and other named xxxx• THIS WAS WORST PART OF MY LIFE AND AT THIS TIME I WENT TO MY COMPANY TO ASK FOR LEAVE DURING THE PROJECT WORK AND GO TO DELHI AND KILL HER AND MYSELF TOO.
• IN MEAN TIME HER FAMILY USED TO THREAT MY PARENTS WHO WHERE TOTALLY UNAWARE OF THE REASON WHICH CAUSED THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN US
• I QUIT JOB ON 22ND FEB 2005 AND CAME TO BANGALORE AND JOINED ANDRITZ TECHNOLOIES ON 1ST MARCH AND ONE MONTH LATER AFTER RENTING HOME I BROUGHT HER HERE AND TILL LAST SHE WAS STAYING WITH ME IN BANGALORE.WE USED TO STAY ALONE FAR FROM MY FAMILY SO THAT THEY SHOULD NOT BE PUT IN ANY PROBLEM ,AS HER PARENTS USED TO TELL THAT THEY WILL PUT MY OLD PARENTS IN JAIL
• On end of year 2006 ,I planned to buy land in Bangalore so that we can build house here and I also requested my father to buy a land here so that I have more financial security and we purchased the land in jalahalli area where I did my schooling ,for this I took money from my friends and my sisters
• ONE DAY SHE TOLD ME THAT HER BROTHER WANTED TO GO TO USA FOR HIGHER STUDIES AND HE IS IN NEED OF 5 LAKHS MONEY ,I TOLD HER THAT IT IS NOT POSSIBLE FOR ME AS I ALREADY HAVE TAKEN PLOT HERE IN BANGALORE AND THAT PLOT IS A REVENUE LAND AND I MUST START SOME CONSTRUCTION THERE ELSE SOME ONE ELSE CAN OCCUPY IT .SHE INSISTED ME AGAIN AND AGAIN BUT I REFUSED ,THEN SHE COOLY SAID THAT THINK OF CONSEQUENCES
• MEAN WHILE I WENT FOR THE project work AT SHANGAI IN CHINA ,ONE DAY SHE CALLED THAT SHE IS NOT WELL ,AND ASKED ME TO COME SO I DIDN’T NOT EXTEND MY VISA AND TALKED TO MY COMPANY AND THEY AFREED FOR A WEEK DAY LEAVE FOR ME ,I CAME TO BANGALORE ,I CAME TO KNOW THAT HER MOTHER HAS COME TO TAKE CARE OF AND SHE HAS NOT TOLD ABOUT ANYTHING TO NEIGHBOURS ,HER MOTHER LEFT TWO DAYS BEFORE I CAME .
MEAN WHILE I HAD DIFFERENT PROJECT WHICH WAS AT HISAR AND I WENT THERE ON 15TH OCTOBER .
• I WENT TO XXX TO TAKE HER TO THE SITE SO THAT WE CAN STAY TOGETHER AFTER A LONG GAP ,BUT HER MOTHER TOLD ME THAT SHE IS NOT THERE AND SHE IS VERY SERIOUS AND ADMITTED TO DELHI ,,THEN I ASKED HER WEHRE IN DELHI ,BUT SHE REFUSED ,I STAYED NIGHT IN HER YOUNGER UNCLE HOME AT FARM HOUSE ,THEY TREATED ME NICELY BUT IN MORNING HER FATHER CALLED ME TO GO TO UP AND HE WILL COME THERE ,HER DAUGHTER IS ON DEATH BED AND HE WILL TEACH A LESSON TO MY PARENTS AND ME HE ,ALSO MY FATER CALLED AND AND SHOUTED AT ME SAYING THAT WHAT I DID ?I WENT HOPE BUT HER FATHER DIDN’T CAME ,
• THEN I CAME BACK TO SITE ,HE USED TO CALL MY FATHER THAT NOW HE WILL NEVER COME TO UP RATHER HE WILL MAKE WHOLE MY FAMILY TO COME TO XXXX AND SPOIL OUR LIFE ,I THOUGHT THERE IS SOME THING WRONG
• I CAME TO BANGALALORE AND WAS SHOCKED TO SEE MY HOUSE DOOR NOT LOCKED AND ALL THINGHS SPREAD ,MANY THINGS MISSING ,I WAS IN DEEP STATED OF SHOCK AS NOT KNOWING WHAT IS HAPPENING ,AND WHAT TO DO .I CALLED HER AND ASKED WHAT HAPPENED AND WHY SHE HAS TAKEN ALL MY THINGS ..SHE TOLD ME I WARNED YOU BEFORE AS TO GIVE MY BROTHER 5 LAKHS ,NOW SHE HAS NOT ONLY TAKEN FEW THINGS BUT ALSO SHE WILL TAKE AWAY MY LIFE ,SHE WILL ELIMINATE ME ,THEY HAVE DONE ALL THE PREPERATION AND WORK .
• I ASKED MY NEIGHBOURS AS WHEN SHE CAME HERE AGAIN AND I WAS SOCKED TO KNOW FROM THEM THAT SHE ALONG WITH SOME MORE PEOPLE CAME SOME WHERE ON 21 -22ND OCTOBER AND TOOK ALWAYS BAGS ,SHE JUST CAME FOR 30MINUTES ,NEXT DAY I WENT TO XXPOLICE STATION IN MORNING AND WAS SITTING WHOLE DAY ,THEY DIDN’T LODGE THE FIR SAYING THAT IT IS FAMILY MATTER AND SHE HAS ALL RIGHTS TO USE ANY OF MY ARTICLES OR THINGS
• THEN I WENT TO HER HOME AS WHAT IS WRONG, UNAWARE OF THEIR ILL CONCEPRERACY WHICH THEY WERE PLANNING BEFORE MY MARRIGE ITSELF.THEIR SOLE AIM IS TO TAKE MONEY WHICH I NEVER UNDERSTOOD ,UNLESS LAST.TILL THE END I TRIED MY LEVEL BEST TO SAVE THIS MARRIGE
• THE MOMENT I WENT TO HER HOME HER FATHER SAID THAT HE WILL BLOW ME INTO PIECES NOW ,AND THEY CALLED POLICE AND THEY PUT ME IN POLICE STATION JAIL ,THAT WAS THE WORST PART I HAD IN MY LIFE .I WAS NOT ALLOWED TO CALL ANY ONE AND NO ONE KNEW WHERE I AM .AFTER THREE DAYS POLICE ALLOWED TO CALL AND THEN I CALLED MY FRIEND.
• I WAS KEPT IN POLICE CUSTODY FOR 9 DAYS AND EVERY HOUR HER FAMILY USED TO COME AND TORCHURE ME SAYING EVERY THING POSSIBLE ON THIS WORD ,THIS CAN BE IMAGINED BY ANY ONE WHO IS KEPT IN POLICE CUSTODY .
• HER FATHER IN LAST SAID THAT THIS IS START OF MY MISERY …
1. HE WILL TAKE AWAY MY FULL SALARY BY PUTTING THE COURT CASE ,
2. HE WILL FORCE ME TO LEAVE MY JOB BY PUTTING COURT DATE EVERY MONTH
3. HE WILL SEAL ALL MY PARENTS AND MY PROPERTY
4. HE WILL KILL ME AS MANY OF THE RELATIVES ARE BUILDER AND HAVE CLOSE RELATION WITH MAFIA
5. HER BROTHER USED TO THREATNED ME THAT HE WILL NOT RETURN MY MONEY WHICH HE HAS TAKEN ,INSTEAD HE WILL FLY TO USA AND FROM THERE HE WILL TEACH ME A LESSON.
6. HER FATHER HAS TAKEN OATH THAT IF HE IS REAL SON OF HIS FATHER HE WILL MAKE ME BEG IN her town .
SIR ,WE WERE STAYING TOGETHER FROM LAST 2.5 YEARS AT BANGALORE TILL SHE RAN AWAY FROM HERE ,AND HER FAMILY HAS WROTE THAT I USED TO BEAT HER AND ONE TIME SHE WAS ALMOST HALF DEAD AND NEIGHBOURS SAVED HER ,THIS IS ALL FALSE ,ALL THE NEIGHBOURS ARE READY TO TELL THE TRUTH ,BUT SINCE THE CASE IS IN XXXX NO ONE WILL BE READY TO GO THERE AS EVERY ONE HERE IS WORKING AND DONT WANT TO LOOSE TIME IN SUCH THINGS ..
I AM SO MUCH DEPRESSED THAT I FEEL USELESS AS I GAVE SO MUCH PROBLEM TO MY OLD PARENTS (WHO ARE MORE THAN 65+ YEARS OF AGE) ,
BECUSE OF HER ,I NEVER CALLED MY PARENTS OR BROTHER TO COME AND STAY WITH ME .
NOW I AM NOT ABLE TO WORK ,EVERY 30 DAYS I HAVE TO GO THERE FOR 5 CASES AGAINST ME ,PLEASE HELP SIR .I SEE VERY DIM AND TROUBLESUM FUTURE IN FRONT OF ME ,SOME TIMES NEGATIVE THOUGHTS COMES TO MY MIND BUT I AM NOT A WEAK PERSON ,I CAN FACE THINGS IF I GET A 1% HOPE OF LIFE GETTING BETTER IN FUTURE ,
MANY THINGS I HAVE NOT WRITTEN HERE.
HER FATHER HAS DONE LLB ,
SHE IS BA IN HISTROY
